Hoxton, 4th Feb 2011 -
Me, Rebus, JohnnyB and Under_Patch
So we met up in Bluu Bar next to Hoxton Kitchen, had a beer, chatted for a little while, then decided to move on to Roadtrip as it has a large smoking area out front where Under_Patch could do his unique drawing pickup technique (dude, that is some serious talent you have there btw - I realise this is not news to you, but I feel I have to say it all the same).
So at Roadtrip, we left Under_Patch to do his thing in the smoking area while me, Rebus and JohnnyB went inside - inside, Rebus opened a few mixed sets, a 3-set, and a HB standing by herself at the end of the bar (I'm sure he can flesh these exploits out more).
I wasn't really feeling it at this point - my AA is still massively affecting me, and while I kept having the urge to to jump in with Rebus as his wing, a little voice kept telling me not to, as I'd inevitably fuck it up. So I stood there like a chode.
Me and JohnnyB decided to go back outside and see how Under_Patch was getting on; he had had some approaches while we were inside (again, I'll let Under_Patch flesh these out).
After a while, me and JohnnyB figured we might be better getting on familiar ground by going to Traffic (the scene of
last friday's exploits)
Again, Rebus was on-form by opening up a mixed set outside Roadtrip, so the rest of us decided to leave him to it and head straight to Traffic. Inside, Under_Patch got himself a seat and me and JohnnyB headed off to find some females.
To cut this down a bit, after a little recon of the club (and AA getting the better of me and JohnnyB), we found a place to perch by the back entrance. Just then a 3-set walked in (all about HB6.5) and headed for the bar - one of them broke off and sat down opposite Under_Patch. Then the other two came and sat down with her. It was on - JohnnyB went and opened them first - I was about to follow but then thought it was maybe a little creepy just coming along straight after JohnnyB and plonking myself down. So I dashed off to the toilet in order to make a more natural approach in a few minutes.
When I got back, Under_Patch was already doing a sketch of the one sat in the middle, so I came over and opened the one closest to me (which as it happens, was the one I was most attracted to anyway). She was watching Under_Patch do the drawing of her friend sat in the middle. I shall call her HBc.
Me: That's an amazing talent, ain't it?
HBc: (looks up, smiles) Yeah
Me: Well, I taught him everything he knows! (I hunkered down at this point to get on her level) You know that there is a charge for him doing this - I'm like his Art-pimp!
HBc: (laughs) Oh really? How much?
Me: You have to dance with me!
HBc: Haha, I bet you pick up girls like this all the time right?
(now, this is the second time a girl has questioned my motives like this while out sarging, so I just played along and mockingly agreed)
Me: Oh yeah, this works a treat - he does the drawings to get the girls over, then make my move! Haha
HBc: (Laughed)
All the while I was doing some light kino, and then moved the convo on - I decided to go with a relationships frame - we had similar-sounding names, so I played with that, saying we already sound like a cute couples' name. she also made me guess her age and it turned out we were the same age:
Me: See! Look at how many things we have in common!
HBc: I know! Maybe we should get married (I think the relationships frame was working too well! lol)
Me: Whoa! Steady on! Are you always this forward?!
HBc: (smiled)
Me: Besides, me and you would never work out - we'd always have huge arguments and fall out, followed by hot make-up sex, followed by more arguments, followed by hot make-up sex! (I think I pinched this from Style)
HBc: (laughes, smiles, etc.)
Well, we continued the chat for a while longer about miscellaneous stuff - really going well. And then I made a fatal error (which Rebus helped me to realise later):
Under_Patch had to leave to catch the last train, so when he got up and left, Johnny moved up the seat on the booth, and I sat down. BIG MISTAKE.
I essentially went from having her in semi-isolation to breaking it - her friend started talking to her, and I couldn't really break myself back in - while the distance across the table was only a couple of feet, with the music and her friend, it might as well have been the distance of the fucking Atlantic ocean.
What I should have done (again, thanks Rebus for later pointing this out), was to completely isolate her by taking her hand and moving her off somewhere else - to dance, to chat more, whatever - anything instead of sit down opposite her! grrr.
Shortly after that, they all left and I didn't even get a chance to close her.
That was when Rebus came in, and we all started a little approaching game - we all put a 5 note in and had to take turns to nominate who would go and approach who - this is a great game to play to get over your AA, I highly recommend it. I'll just talk here about my most succesfull and interesting approach and let the others fill in their own stuff.
1. Rebus told me to approach a 2-set at the bar - one was a HB8 in a little black figure-hugging dress, and the other was a HB9 dressed a little less sexily, but god-damn was she hot as hell and much more talkative. So shitting myself with AA (THIS WAS MY FIRST-EVER SOLO APPROACH!!!), I walked up with my hat on and opened with:
Me: Hey girls! Help me out here - my friends back there keep taking the piss out of my new hat, and I don't want to talk to them anymore! You girls have style, so I thought I'd just hang with you!
Both: (laughed)
HB9: Aww, it's nice - I like it!
Me: (took the hat off) Yeah, I only wear it cos I have such messy hair!
HB9: Oh, that's much better anyway!
Me: Yeah? You think? (kino'd)
At this point, we continued talking about random stuff - they were both from Poland, and only over in LDN for a few days visiting friends - we talked about clubs to go to etc., and the whole time this HB9 was really giving me IOI's - returning Kino, smiling loads etc etc.
I kept thinking to myself: my god, I am talking to one of the hottest girls in this place, and not only is she not telling me to fuck-off, she actually finds me interesting too!
I FELT LIKE A FUCKIN BOSS RIGHT THEN!
So anyways, because I am still a complete chode, I kinda wimped out after a while, made my excuses, and exited.
Now, I fucking hate myself for not doing more with this girl - we bumped into each other a few more times that night, and at one point, she actually came over and opened me!
I should have done so much more!
But as this is all new to me, I'm gonna chalk this up to inexperience and a lack of confidence - I just couldn't believe that i'd have a chance with this hot chick.
So I opened a few more sets the rest of the night, but they were nothing of real note. I'm sure the other guys have more to input on their experiences that night.
All in all, it was a pretty good night - I still have so much to work on, but I feel I am making progress, slowly but steadily.
I AM FUCKING LOVING THIS SHIT!!!
Much love,
Craigus