What did I do wrong?

[Awesome guy]

I've been single for two years and had to relearn the game after my divorce. I've gotten quite good at picking up beautiful women at the first or second date, using advice from the PUA named Playing with Fire. But when I meet someone who I think could have potential for a relationship I fuck it up.

Im sorry for any grammer mistakes. English in not my native language.

The date:
She is just my type. I am hears as well, she told me. She lives far from me. We met in a town half way between us. Had a great date. Laughter, emotional connection, interesting conversation, similar values and interests. We flirted and talked about sex. We made out and she was a great kisser. Unfortunately, I had to catch a train home because I was going to work the day after. When we said goodbye, she said she was going to visit me in my city. She told me she hated playing games and when people pretended to be hard to get. On my way home we texted. She wrote thank you for a great date and said she was looking forward to get to know me better.

I was thrilled. She is literally just my type. What I have been looking for. She seemed very much into me. But very quickly after the date, she began answering slowly and with short messages, until finally saying the "I cant date you right now" message.

Here is our text conversation. I wrote her again 1,5 day after she wrote me goodnight after our date:

First I wrote a call back joke that referred to something we had laughed about earlier.
I then wrote: About second date, I have my son this week. How does your schedule look next week?

Two days goes by with no reply despite her having seen my message.

Me: Dont think too hard now

Her reply the day after liked my joke with an laughing emoji and wrote: Been busy with new job. Next week I have plans wednesday-friday, but otherwise Im free.

Me: "Exciting. You must tell me more about that when we meet". I then insert another call back joke and said we should meet tuesday.

Three days goes by with no answer.

I then wrote: We will meet tomorrow at (insert bar) for a drink and a light meal. I look forward to get to know you better. You made a good impression last time. Smiley.

Her: I was just about to write you. I had forgotten to cancel my commitment to be on call at work, so I have been called to work.

Me: Do you want to meet saturday instead?

No reply

I then send a picture/meme of me smiling in a teasing way and a text saying "are you always this difficult to make plans with? You scoundrel" (it is a good picture and has worked before, the scoundrel was an internal joke we had laughed about before)

Her: Im sorry for the silence. Im juggling between moving from my apartment, a lot of extra shifts at work and a cold on top of things.
Normally I would have replied, but I think perhaps I have bitten over more than I can chew. Until Im settled in my new home and have more structure in my life, I unfortunately have to put new adventures on hold. Despite me thinking you are very exciting. I hope you will understand. It is not to be a scoundrel, I just have to be realistic.

Me: It sounds like you have enough to see to. I thought you had just forgotten how to date and had become shy
You once said you dont like unclear communication and games. Here is me trying to be clear. We had a great date, obvious chemistry and we share both values and interests. That does not happen every day. I hope you will let me know if I have misunderstood something or if there is an underlying concern holding you back. Im a busy man my self, but Im sure we can both find time in our calendars if we really want to.

She never replied. It is a week ago now. However for some reason she likes what I post in Instagram. I dont like what she posts or view her stories. I have been doing "no contact".

Possible explanations for her behavior. In random order:

1. She is just not into me. Perhaps she had second thoughts. I was probably too needy in my texting after the date. But if she has lost interest, it has happened very quickly after a date that kinda went perfect. I mean it had everything from flirting, deep conversation, making out, laughing etc. and she herself suggested visiting me in my town. So even though my texting was too needy, I still have a hard time thinking she in not into me at all.

2. Im her back upplan. She has met someone else that she likes more. She has not lost interest, it is just that someone else is more interesting. This could explain why she likes my posts instagram. To keep things alive if her first priority does not work out.

3. She speaks the truth. The only reason why she does not want to meet right now is the chaos in her life. I know that there is chaos. The question is whether it is the sole reason, or whether it is a convenient excuse. If it is only because there is too much chaos, her liking my posts could also be a way to keep a fire under the kettle until she is ready.

More about her:
She became single around six months ago. It was a very though breakup and she got burned and felt manipulated. Basically, she wanted kids and he did not, but he made it seem like he was getting ready for kids, which he was not. I dont think she is completely over that guy yet.

So my questions are:
- What did I do wrong?
- What is the reason she cancelled?
- What should I do now?

Im trying to move on. Im already seeing other women. But like Captain Barbossa says about being cursed in Pirates of the Carribean: "The drink would not satisfy. Food turned to ash in our mouths." It is the same when Im with other women now

So my plan is two fold:
1. Move on. Do a lot of exiting stuff that makes me feel good. Be with other women. Eventually forget about her.
2. Whilst doing 1, post the exiting stuff I do on Instagram and look like quite the catch. Whilst not contacting her. Then in some months, if Im still single, perhaps reengage her in a non needy way (not sure how)

So what should I do? Any advice would be received with gratitude!