Just watched beginners guide to street game by Tom Torero. Combining it with what I've learnt at Charisma Arts, this is basically the sequence of steps I am going to be following for day game:

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There are a number of aspects which I need to develop in order to become good at this:-
(1) Being a sexual being
(2) Having fun and teasing
(3) Disqualifying
(4) Good I perspective statements
(5) Emotional relating

However, the key is still doing the 1 approach per day, as that motivates me to do everything else.

Night game is completely different. In night game, I go and ask for commitment a lot earlier. Maybe I need to ask for commitment sooner in day game too not sure. I am currently leaning towards 'vibing' a bit before asking for commitment, as I may have stopped the women whilst walking, whereas in night game its more group dynamics and chatting up a group.

Thanks Tony. I will look into it.

Name: Erual
Approach: Waterstones. You look like you know the popular science section quite well. Can you recommend me a good book?
What happened: She said no she was a beginner. I liked her, she was French and I found her attractive. She was interested as she was asking me questions, but when I asked her questions she was giving basic short answers, so I was unable to escalate. Did ask her for coffee anyway though, she said she had Christmas shopping to do

Name: Aidan
What happened: Knew her from before. Her life has changed and English has improved. We are having coffee at 6 pm on Thursday. Knew her from before.

Name: Ycul
What happened: Shopping assistant. Spoke a lot about how much she loved art did it since she was 6. Only thing she was really good at. Need to transition it into something I find sexy about her

Still feeling a little weak after my flu.

Name: ??
Approach: Sat opposite her on the train and noticed her hair was wet. Said the weather is terrible isn't it.
What happened: Got into small chit chat. My questions weren't that big - like What do you do for work? How long have you lived in Brighton? and my I perspectives were small rather than relating a feeling and a story.
Improvement:
(1) A follow-up deepening question - what do you like or dislike about your job?
How do you find living in Brighton? They will inspire me to give more detailed I perspectives as well

Name: Yeba
Approach: She was sitting opposite me on the train. I said
Me: "I like your bag. I think its fashionable. Is it new?"
Yeba: Thanks. (Smiling) No, it is old. I got it last Christmas.
Me: I got this bag (pointing at my bag) a couple of months ago when I started commuting. I hate my commute, it is 2 hours long, so I bought myself something nice.
You look like you do a job which doesn't need a laptop, what kind of work do you do? (I noticed she didn't have a laptop with her)
Yeba: I use a desktop. I am afraid I will leave my laptop on the train. I work in marketing.
Me: (I paused .. vacuum)
Yeba: She asked "What do you do?"
Me: I work as a Product Manager in software. I come up with ideas for software, write it down and give it to the developers to build and then show it around to different people in the company. I work with a lot of marketing people, as the products they need to be marketed. What do you like or dislike about your job - how do you find your job?
Yeba: <thinking> I have never thought about this before ... sorry I honestly don't know. (About to look away towards the window and end the conversation)
Me: No worries. I love coming up with ideas. I hate my commute. I was brain storming for ideas right now (pointing to my laptop). I sometimes carry around a little notebook and write down my ideas. I am a dreamy sort of guy. (she laughs). I day dream a lot, and its nice to get a job which pays me for it.
Yeba: Thats nice
Me: (continuing ...) I also interact with a lot of people some of them are challenging. I don't like that.
Yeba: You like that did you say.
Me: No, I don't like that.
Yeba: I was going to say that would be unusual.
Me: Actually. I had a boss who loved difficult people situations. She was a bit of a pitbull. Some people are like that. How do you find the people you work with?
Yeba: They are really nice. I work in a startup. Everyone's nice, but sometimes things get a bit stressful. There is black friday coming up. (then she starts to look down at the table)
Me: (Listening/vacuuming) Yes black Friday would be difficult
Yeba: Yes we have to get aggregates from all our suppliers. (Then she looked away to the window and disconnected)

(About 1 min later her stop arrives)
Yeba: Nice to meet you. Have a nice train ride!
Me: Nice to meet you. Have a nice day. She still only gave me a short answer. I was doing 80% of the talking. Not sure how I should improve?

Thanks Tony

Today I went in to Anavi at her shop where she worked with a cup of tea 'mint, fennel and rose' and asked her out again saying "I really enjoyed our time last Tuesday, I want to take you out on another date and if it all goes well there maybe some kissing at the end".

She was all smiles, was flattered had a good conversation.

Hey man,

Gotta step in here. This is gonna be both honestly and scruffily written...

You repeatedly mention spirituality but haven't defined what you mean and it means wildly different things to different people in different contexts. What do you mean?

No one says this to a stranger "You're rather x, that's something I really like about you" it's odd. Just really weird people who never get laid and make fake videos like Tom Terrero say that sort of stuff to strangers.

You mention your culture as being an issue but haven't told us what culture.

The way you write stuff is quite difficult for me to read. You seem quite attached to form and structure. That also seems to say something about who you are. Tell us about this

Like you note when you talk about not being sexual or assumed gay the thing is something about you. It's not about delivering this or that type of question or statement. It's not about contrived odd lines only aspies or fags would say like "you and I would never get along" which might as well end with you saying "sistah!” jutting your hip out and pouting. It's not about structure. If that stuff is having any effect at all, is a negative one.

It's not about any thing other than you and there's almost nothing about you here.


Peace,

kowalski

Kowalski, thanks for your input. I will respond to your post separately and properly

Name: Nej
Approach: She was drinking hot tea. I said "Its nice to have a hot cup of tea on a cold morning like this"
What's unique about her: She naturally got into a conversation. It flowed very smoothly. She's originally from Brighton, now lives in London. Studied at Glasgow. Went to Berlin and New York for internships. Her boyfriend lives in Brighton. She studied sculpture at university and does it on the side.

The big open ended questions I was asking were actually breaking the flow of the conversation, so instead I just let the conversation flow naturally.

Also, Anavi sent me a text inviting me to have coffee with her tomorrow in response to me asking her out with a cup of tea in her shop

Anavi met me for coffee and said she didn't want to take it further.

I learnt a lot from this as I have spiced up my room for when I bring someone over again I can pull. Also I will definitely kiss next time.

Hey Kowalski,

Spirituality does indeed mean different things to different people. I mostly do mindfulness of breathing (Buddhism), chanting meditations (Hare Krishna), writing meditations (Conversations with God). I love reading Eckhart Tolle - Power of Now, A New Earth etc. I also belong to a spiritual group Underearners Anonymous - Official Website which is all about living life to your fullest potential including financially and with all your goals. Dating is one of the areas I am currently addressing hence I am here.

I have never said "You're rather x, that's something I really like about you" to a stranger. I don't know where you got that from. I usually approach with "You look really nice today, I just thought I'll come and say that to you" or "I like the colour of your coat (or some other complement) so thought I'll say Hi" or something like that.

Is Tom Torrero fake? I don't know I like his stuff, but I primarily use Charisma Arts. Open to reading all stuff out there.

My culture is Indian. I grew up in Mumbai and then in Delhi. People out there just get married by being introduced to someone through their parents. I don't want that - I am more sexually adventurous and I want to date someone locally from Brighton, UK.

I didn't realise the way I write is difficult to read. I am usually short of time. I use a template to log my interactions which is
Name:
What was unique about the person:

This helps get focused discovering what's unique about each person. Additionally, I also add categories for 'Approach: - As in how did I approach" or anything else I can improve.

I don't use canned lines or contrived stuff. Authenticity and honesty is very important to me. So I am spontaneous all the time. That doesn't mean I don't have structure. I like structure in all things that I do, but I also leave plenty of room creativity. I don't use canned lines at all, it's all 100% authentic.

More about me - I love acting and swimming. I am starting a new job on 4th December as a Product Manager in Software. I am simultaneously working to set-up my own business and find the love of my life. I want to set up a family and have kids, but first I also want to experiment sexually. I have a lot of friends in Brighton. I love hanging out in the Jury's Inn which is a hotel by the sea front with glass walls so you can see the sea.

Let me know if you have more questions?

So predictable, your response.... Where to start?

"I have never said "You're rather x, that's something I really like about you" to a stranger. I don't know where you got that from."

I didn't say that you said anything like that to strangers. I said only weird people say that sort of stuff to strangers.

For your part you repeatedly stated that you think saying stuff like that is a good idea and at least once actually said something exactly like that.

Exact quote - "You're a creative person. I like that about you" - you published this as an example of something good to say.

Later this exact quote - Improvement: Better I perspectives ending on a different topic, bigger questions, appreciation "you're ...., I like that about you",

Actual quote from your own dialogue -"You're adventurous. I like that about you"

Could probs quote more but I've more than sufficiently made my point.


Peace,

kowalski