Day game graft diary!
 

Hello! I just thought I'd make a thread on here of my day game adventures, mainly for self reflection and to keep myself on track.

Sometimes, it's easy to focus on the negatives, so this is a way to keep reminding myself of the successes I've had.

Feel free to chip in at any point, I'm open to feedback.

I went out for around an hour or so today in a local town by me, first of all I had to fix a flat tyre by the road which wasn't a f*cking ideal start to the day, anyway around 40 minutes later job done, find a parking spot and crack on.

After washing my hands I noticed my vibe wasn't good after the annoyance of the flat tyre, I just thought to myself get a few approaches out of the way and I'll start to loosen up.

I saw a fair skinned red head coming towards me, I'd actually seen her as I was parking the car and noticed how naturally beautiful she was. I opened her, she stopped, took the compliment well smiled, said something like 'I don't even have any make-up on, but thanks'. Chat went back and forth, I wasn't in the groove at all, she filled a gap with 'I have a boyfriend'. This was still early in the interaction, from past experiences, it's a brush off and they want out. I kind of expected it because of my vibe and my first few of the day are never the most smooth, in hindsight I would have loved to of spoken to her later in the day after a few more approaches.

Anyway, on we go, I did a few more approaches, some I wasn't feeling but just wanted to get warmed up so I was approaching girls that I wouldn't normally. The town I was in, is not heavily populated so you have to sacrifice quality for quantity. Each rejection I could feel myself getting more and more carefree.

Then, I was walking towards a girl, decent looking, nice body shape, she looked once, down at the floor, looked again, looked to the side and then the third time I opened her just as we passed, it's worth noting I didn't and never do look away from the girl. Masculine dominant eye contact. I knew how interested she was, so I went easy on the opener, 'you look interesting' she laughed. We chatted back and forth, 'do you do this all the time?' she asked. 'Only to the really hot girls' further back and forth, number close, interestingly I said take my number and text me. Not something I usually do, but to be honest I wasn't that bothered if she didn't text, plus it sets the immediate tone of her chasing me slightly.

Few more good interactions and more rejections, nothing to write home about. Broke up the day by going into a shop to check out some clothes, I do this often if I feel I need a bit of a break from doing the same loops, also genuinely looking at clothes and also you see occasionally hot women.

That's exactly what happened, I spotted this female, looking pretty damn hot, high heels, glamorous, wag like. Not my usual favourite type, but no doubt she was striking. I walk past her ask the shop assistant a question, out of my peripheral vision I see the HB notice me and change her direction of walk towards me, bingo!

I walk off, circle back, see her, walk towards her and open, I can see how surprised she is, but seems to really like what's happening, we chat quite quietly almost whispering because of the other people all around. She's Polish which I guess this without her telling me, I tell her some story about my mates getting drunk in krakow! Then I notice some of the shoppers become aware of what's going on, which is distracting knowing others are glaring and pointing right in my eye line. I find it difficult to stay completely present in the interaction when this happens. So I decide to go for the close, she shows me her wedding ring, 'I'm married' I know she was interested, so I say I don't want to be your husband. She laughs and says thanks so much. It doesn't go any further. I think I could have gotten her number if I'd of persisted with more vibing and rapport. I don't normally graft in shops, but after today I may start doing a bit more.

Few more blowouts, then decided to call it a day the weather had taken a turn for the worse and I was in a t-shirt. So I headed back to the car, I spotted a nice looking natural young female, opened her, went well, really receptive. Chatted back and forth, teased her about various topics she brought up, just playful stuff. She liked it, number close off I went.

Decent day hour or so, overall it definitely wasn't my best day, but I'm learning how to get myself back into the groove which I wasn't good at the start. It's so important to keep on interacting even if things don't start off well. It only takes one smile or thanks from a girl to change your whole day and get the ball rolling.

Humble,

Nice one for taking the opportunity to go out there and just crack on, whatever your mood and circumstance today.

Sounds like you had a decent run in, too. Has that girl text you since?

Have you set yourself a target on how many opens to do a day?

Was thinking of starting at like 5.

Having a numeric goal like that which depends on factors outside of yourself is a bad type of goal.

What if you go outside and there aren't any humans around? You can only approach x number of people if there are x number of people available to approach.


Peace,

kowalski

Fair play on the shop bit.

Reminds me of myself, the time I was out chatting up chicks during the day.

Ok I'm gunna do it again.

Cheers, the girl I gave my number to didn't text. Genuinely wasn't too fussed for a few reasons when we chatted.

Ideally you want to be aiming for around 30 approaches per week to get good solid learning experience.

Just got your message, I'll WhatsApp you later man.

Thanks man.

Got out today in Manchester for a few hours, pretty solid day, will update later :)

30 sounds like a solid amount. Guess it'll become easier when I progress and gain experience; all about making it a routine and then lifestyle.

Yes, feel free to give me a shout.

It's not how goal setting works.


Peace,

kowalski

You can set your numerical goals in accrodance to your location. I get what you're saying, though.

Yeah definitely, it's good to have a target to work towards especially at the beginning, keeps you accountable and you can see your progress over time. I'd say 10 approaches when you go out for 2-3hrs at a time and do that 3 times per week.

You'll progress pretty quickly if you are socially aware and use the girls for feedback :)

Just a quick entry. I went to Manchester yesterday with a wing from Liverpool. First time we had met, but got on well, bounced a few ideas back and forwards.

I had already done two approaches on my way to meet him, one number close.

Probably did around 15 approaches yesterday and 4 numbers.

Out of those 4 numbers only one is texting back so far.

It was a pretty good day yesterday, I just enjoy the process a lot and see it as an adventure. Whereas when I first started I used to feel dread at what was about to come. Total mentality switch. I credit each girl I've spoken to for helping me get to this stage.

Did another approach on my to the gym today, really petite gym bunny, all sweaty, looking a bit embarrassed for obvious reasons. Opened her, told her what I noticed about her. Immediately really open, great conversationalist (which I love) she literally did most of the work, very positive and upbeat. She was just about to qualify as a PT, spoke about that at length, common interest. Then she dropped in she does yoga too, I interjected 'This gets better, high five' she reciprocates and smiles. Bit more conversation, number close.

I would recommend adding day game to your daily life, but be selective of the situations. That was perfect as we were just walking towards each other at the right time in a busy supermarket carpark.

Date last night went pretty well, blonde female I had been speaking to on Facebook, just messaged her a throwaway message... Date soon? She responded really positively I think it was more because of how short and direct the message was from our previous messages.

Plus, I found out on the date she had been dating a guy who had recently messed things up with her. So it was probably good timing too.

We met in town, I had gone into town around 20 minutes before her to check out the best venues. She messaged me around that time saying she was running a bit late. I saw an old friend so chatted to them for awhile in one of the boozers. I wasn't drinking at this point, I'm not a massive drinker anyway. Just having banter and laughing with the old friend. Around 19:10 I left and messaged her, you're buying the first drink for being late. She messaged back 'yeah ok haha'.

She arrived, looking pretty hot to be fair, I was looking smart myself, shirt, pants, jeans, boots, belt. She immediately apologised and complimented me, also went to hug me, which was a bit awkward I'm not massively into hugs haha!

Anyway, onto the first venue I led us there. First shit test, the bar girl asks me what were both having, she goes quiet. I say '*name* is getting the first round!' She smiles, oh yeah what you having...

Then we move on forget about everything and just concentrate on getting familiar, I purposely choose seats we can sit side by side instead of face to face. She's glad and says 'I've already had one interview today'. She had an interview for monarch Airlines as an air hostess. Perfect, first topic to discuss....

We chat for 20-30 minutes, bit of flirting, touching as were so close, she's comfortable with it. Everything is going well, but there's still a little nervous/sexual/polarising tension in the air. Some girls it's just there with no doubt for me, I'm pretty comfortable with it now. I escalate the conversation verbally, she gladly answers them reverses the questions to me.

Everything is going well, I tell her we're going, switch venues. We do to a more classy, sexy cocktail bar right next to where I'm parked. I get the next round, only half for me as I'm driving. We sit side by side in one of the booths, it's a lot more comfortable for us both. We speak about my job at length she's turned into me and literally is focused completely on me as I talk using good body language and confident tone. Physical escalation, more touching, show her my tattoos, she tells me she wants a tattoo under her breasts. Everything is going well, all the signs are there.

'Let's go to mine'... 'what for?' ... 'I'm bored in here, I want somewhere more comfortable'

'Ok, should I follow you in my car?' That would of been too much hassle and she may of reconsidered after texting her friends or whatever.

'I'll drop you off at your car later, don't worry, I got you!'

'Ok' she smiles, catches me up excitedly and links my arm.

We get back to mine, put some music on and chat until she's comfortable. We talk about music, boring chit chat, I spike things up. 'What's your guilty pleasure?'

She thinks for awhile... 'Erm, I just bought a vibrator!'

'I see and is getting used a lot lately'

'Yeah, I'm single'

We talk more about it. I then say come and sit here, she does. We kiss, then talk more, kiss again, talk more.

I then try to lead her upstairs, she's not keen, it's too soon. She says something about not doing one night stands, I respond unapologetically and say I find her attractive.

I realise it's too soon for her, but there's a good connection, we talk more and then I drop her off. Possibly line up for date 2, good night though.

Just a quick update. I've been out a few times since the last entry, collected a lot of numbers. Most flaked, still working on a few numbers.

If any of you guys hit day game hard, you will know the hardest part isn't getting numbers, it's getting numbers that don't flake and agree to come out on a date.

Seriously, it's a rude awaking. It's the hardest part of daygame. Even though it's frustrating, I'm trying to transcend it and continue getting out whilst trying to refine my skill set. I'd say I'm approaching intermediate level of day game, but it's still slow.

I've noticed recently my interactions aren't as smooth and my overall vibe isn't what it was the last few months.

I got two solid leads over the last week, a 37 year old yoga teacher and a 21 year old Polish student. They are texting back good so far, I'll attempt to get them out by the end of the week.

To balance things up I've had multiple blowouts and some real gems that I closed who didn't text back.

Feeling slightly apathetic at the moment in comparison to my previous posts. Upon some self reflection it's probably my lack of dedication in my personal life, I stopped meditating, diet has been a bit hit and miss, also sleeping pattern has been a bit shit. It's all my own doing, I'll get back on track soon.

Hope you're all going well, thanks for reading.

Went out in Manchester on Saturday for some solo daygame and did around 15 approaches. I wasn't feeling it at all, confidence was pretty low. It turned out to be the worst day I've done since I started a few years ago.

I have been trying to understand why over the last few days and instead of putting it on one thing, I believe it's a number of things combined. Mostly I gave up NoFap which literally has drained me of testosterone and masculine energy, I haven't been sleeping well and also have become aware that I'm not on point, so it turns into a self fulfilling prophecy.

However, I have got back on track with shit starting from Sunday and have set a few targets. I've done a couple of approaches in the morning rush hour through town on my way to work which I believe is helping me level things out and keep the consistency. The interactions have gone well which is the main thing.

I dated the 37 year old yoga teacher previously mentioned last Friday, we met in a pub halfway between us both. She had arrived before me and text, which I was pleased about, shows she is pretty keen. I got there and found her snuggled away in the corner away from most other people, which was spot on. She looked pretty hot, I told her so, then went and got us both a drink. Came back and the date began, I beside her, avoid sitting face to face it's too much pressure.

I lean back, take up a lot of space and place my arm kind of at the back of her without touching her. She responds well and initiates conversation whilst smiling. We just talk about work and generic topics, basic comfort building, this goes on for around 20 minutes, until I think it needs spiking up. I ask her if she has any tattoos, she says yes, do you? I say I'm covered in them, I have around 6/7. She says where? I get my phone out and show her a hedonistic gym selfie, she immediately gets her phone out to show me some of hers, she opens instagram, turns out she does a bit of underwear modelling on the side.

Importantly here, I don't act overly impressed, I take the phone off her browse them and say nothing on the pictures that are nice, then the ones I really like, ass showing etc, I say 'not bad', then pass her the phone back.

More conversation, then I decide to change locations, mainly because we've now developed a bit of an audience of workmen in their work clobber watching and another girl who I know from school. But also because it keeps things moving, I'm leading etc, refreshes the interaction.

We drive in my car into town, the second venue, I tell her it's her round, but I only have half! I've bought the first round and drove us to the other side of town, it's fair, I'm only having half ;) most guys just overly try to please, it's fine to ask a girl to buy a drink, just don't take the piss and do it in the right way.

Everything spikes up a level, most of the conversation is sexual. I try to steer it away, but she keeps bringing it back. We then leave, get back in my car and make out multiple times separated with conversation. I say let's go back to mine, she says no because we'll have sex! I say no its the first date stop getting excited. I can see she's tempted, but LMR is there, I think she sees me as potential BF and doesn't want me to think bad of her. So I send her packing and line up date 2 a few days later...