Office game report ? (going nuts)
 

Here is a case of totally different game (office). I m in this work place a year, already know most good-looking girls, banged 2-3 of them, and generally can say i could easily pull others too. Too bad most people see chicks saying hello/ask for coffee often so it's gotten me a 'nasty' reputation already.

Anyways, a girl joined the team 2 months ago..i was immediately very attracted to her (although more like a 7, not a typical pretty 8 or 9) and my mates said they could see the same from her side. I kept teasing/negging her big-time, and she seemed to love it. we quickly established rapport, a couple of drinks after work with great chats; she'd always ask for coffee breaks, exchanging flirty texts during weekends, at some point i was almost thinking she is getting obsessed, so i sort of pulled back a bit; trying to maintain some coworker relationship. I was intending to slowly move on to her, but work environment is tricky; didnt want to make things awkward or move in too early, so kept things casual with no moves from my end.

when i decided to get things moving with subtle flirting at work (some times i was quite obvious), things turned very quickly to cycles of flirting from her side vs. being cold and not being responsive to texts or drink invites etc..I ve not been 'hit ' so hard by a girl in ages and this shit is getting me nuts.

At this point i m just wondering if that was a play to get my attention and now doesnt care; it was never flirt just a 'flirty' girl with genuine interest/friendliness, is she playing hard to get/she s made out i play around with girls...no clue what is really going on here.

Anyone that can relate at all?

Drop it, I reckon. "Going nuts" says it all.

Time to remove yourself from the situation. Not suicide though like in them old Russian books, just go do something less boring instead.

She has probably sensed by now that she has the upper hand... Actually, better than "upper hand" is Patrice O'Neal's explanation on the Black Phillip show, paraphrased of course - sometimes you fuck up and find yourself driving behind the girl down a narrow one way street, it's more or less impossible to get ahead of her, you need to turn off the road.

Girls don't have direction, so they can't lead. When we chase they think they know where they are going but they only know where they are coming from. Away is not a direction and away needs an X to be moving away from. If you are that X, stop... remove yourself. If she really liked it, she'll come back around either trying to bait you to chase again or sometimes all humble having learned how she likes you now.


Peace,

kowalski

What would we do without Kowalskis super brainy insights? I've studied psychology for 4 years and I probably couldn't have came up with that.

On another note, I've long ago realized I'm in the wrong office. Most of the females are either unavailable or ugly. Even just the elevator ride at lunch presents so much evidence that I'm in the wrong office, because of the hot chicks I see from the other floors.

I might change my working situation.

Ever chased a girl up the stairs though? They are like when you chase a child up the stairs, if you recall what that felt like to be chased up stairs as a child. You don't even need to chase them, just bang your hands on a step and off they go. It awakes something primal in them.


Peace,

kowalski

That was a pleasant read-funny and insightful!!
the 'narrow one-way street' was the best description:)

thanks

situation update: followed advice of removing myself, and it got to the point where i got myself back! didnt really care much, and am much more confident and relaxed around her, and that alone was worth it :)

She's now the one initiating all conversations, asks for breaks to chat etc..etc.Nothing yet happened but we happen to travel together abroad for work. Having a crush on her i know i ll probably gonna lose my cool at some point so I need some perspective on how to lead things on; being coworkers and everything is a bit complex but if anyone has experience or pointers to share it'd be welcome !

Kowalski had it all right..! well it didnt take me two years to find out (since last post) but I had been too busy fucking her to write a new reply :)

as soon as i moved away from the situation, things turned around and on the business trip we woke up the whole hotel floor..good advice