Feedback from 2nd date
 

Hello all,

I haven't posted here for a while. I've been pretty successful over the last few months however I need some serious critique on my latest attempt.

Started chatting to a girl on Tinder. Seemed to get on like a house on fire and my game was shit hot. We actually genuinely got on very well. I knew this was a gonna be a long game as opposed to the usual hook up and shag. Anyway, met for a coffee, all good, she said I was "hunky", bla bla, she liked my big arms, etc. etc. and I said I'd take her out for a meal and stay in a hotel in her town. There was no way I was sleeping with her that night and I didn't intend to. We had chatted LOADS in between.

I got dressed up nice and met her in a bar. Went for a meal, had some drinks. Next day she invited me for breakfast, we went back to hers and we watched a film. We kissed, I accidentally gave her a love bite (I know! It was a genuine accident, I'm not 12) and I left shortly after. She wasn't especially happy but anyway, I noticed that night she wasn't as keen as she had been previously. No response, etc.

I could tell what was gonna come - she messaged me with "I think you're a nice guy but no spark for me."

I'm not losing any sleep over it but I am disappointed as I was quite into her. MORE importantly, I want to know what may have caused this as I don't want to repeat my mistakes. There were 100000 IOIs in previous chats so as far as I'm concerned, I've screwed up somewhere and as I say I don't want to repeat my mistakes.

Please let me know if you need any more information.

I have some views on why this didn't work but I'd like to hear yours. Please be brutal.

Did you stay in a hotel room with her?

And then you went to a bar and had drinks?

If so, 'no spark' means 'you didn't fuck me' or tease me for it at least.

kowalski - OK, interesting. I'd like to think I'm a good kisser and she was making all the right sounds. She told me afterwards 'she enjoyed it at the time' but was a bit annoyed about the love bite. When she realised that had happened it pretty much finished there and then. I left because I felt I'd overstayed my welcome slightly, I didn't want to hang around too much and I was sure we'd see each other again.

I wasn't trying to sleep with her at this point - this was a girl I had, for once, become attracted to and was happy to play the long game with.

Shahanshah - No, she lived round the corner. Sleeping with her that night was never on the cards.

She also said that she wasn't really feeling it on the first night but wanted to see me the second time to make sure.