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Default Day 2 Age differences - 04-03-2010, 10:51 AM

Age differences are obviously a massive part of relationships between men and women however are they important? and how can you overcome the "age barrier" when chicks use it as an objection??

I experienced this a couple of nights ago. The setting was a sleazy cocktail bar in Central London. I had picked up this girl in a club a couple of weeks ago. I knew that she was young but I had no idea that she was wait for it... 18!!! This was not an issue for me however she hadnt realised that I was 29 years old when we first met. This was not down to subterfuge on my part but more that the subject had never come up!

Anyway 15 minutes into the Day 2 the age difference came up and altered the whole mood of the date. I managed to recover the mood slightly with lots of Kino / thumb war / dancing e.t.c however got the feeling that she was thinking about the 10 year gap quite a lot!! I guess that you could lie about your age but am not keen on this as an option.

What suggestions would guys have to this objection and how to overcome it?
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Default 04-03-2010, 11:23 AM

Its not an issue if you get on together as people.

You just need to be aware that her age will dictate a few things about the relationship and you need to be cool with that.


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Default 04-03-2010, 11:47 AM

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What suggestions would guys have to this objection and how to overcome it?
Change the subject or just tell her you don't think it's a problem (if this is the case). Like anything negative or resistance orientated, as the man you need to be the one dictating 'if it's alright' or not. If you start making it an issue by reacting to or thinking too much about her comments then it becomes an issue, even if you originally didn't have a problem with it.


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Default 04-03-2010, 12:26 PM

There are two factors involved here:

1) Because she’s 18, she feels that the age difference is too big a gap and may cause a big problem. If she was 28 and you were 39, I pretty much doubt it would be an issue or if it is, it wouldn’t be such a “big” deal. The last girl I was with was over 10 years younger than me. Not even a mention of the 10-year gap cos' she was in her late 20's.

2) It is how she perceives where this liaison is heading. She probably wants to be in a LTR. Hence, the age gap. And depending on where you want this to go (LTR or a bit of fun), I suggest you be honest with her.

It is better to be honest and risk losing her than beating around the bush and stringing her along cos’ in my experience, if a girl has a bee in her bonnet about the age gap, it causes more hassle that for what it is worth. My two pence…! Good luck fella.


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Default 04-03-2010, 05:40 PM

NO NO NO! Dude! age is no big deal at all, my missis at the mo is 17 and i'm 27 she loves the fact i'm older, i give her value offering information, i help her develop herself, when ever she is with me she feels secure, she feels proud to be with me, i offer her 12 years off sexual experiance, and all her friends want to party with us, all off these things she knows she cant get from anyone her age.

if she see's it as a problem its because someone has made it a problem for her, she's been told its a problem or its somthing that got mentioned before she got to realise how cool you are and what it would mean to have you involved in her life.


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Default 04-03-2010, 06:31 PM

I wouldnt worry too much about your age. Some girls like TFs example like the idea of being with a much older man, these sorts of girls tend to be abit more mature for their age, open-minded and more secure within themselves. Whereas other 18 year old girls still have abit more growing upto do, they're much more susceptible to decision-making forced upon them by social and peer-pressures etc. Perhaps even finding a 10 year age gap at that age as 'creepy' even. As you get older however a 10 year age gap at say 25-35 is considered much more acceptible to most.

Also perhaps worth bearing in mind alot of young girls can be intimidated by the older man feeling inferior to him. I remember being 18 and feeling intimidated by people beyond their mid-20s as I felt they had much more life experience, wisdom etc that I just didn't possess at that time. I also (perhaps wrongly) thought people at that age 'had their shit together' career-wise, financially, in terms of relationships etc and me as an 18 year old kid not really knowing what I wanted out of life felt very much distant from that reality.


It was fear of myself that made me odd

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Default 04-03-2010, 06:41 PM

i remember being 18 doing a 36 year old single mum thinking

"dam she's a lucky bitch to have a young whipper snapper like me so full of energy and vitality"

then in the morning i came down stairs to the horrified look on her 17 year old daughters face.

ooooo all the memorys are coming back now.


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