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Chappers089 26-05-2014 10:03 AM

All advice welcome!
 
Hi everyone, very short field report from a night out last night.

I started the night with a friend and his girlfriend, just in the local witherspoons, it was pretty much empty other than a few groups of 40 somethings.

After they left for home I headed round to the local haunt thats open until the early hour, this was a little busier with a few 8's on the dance floor.
I got a drink and moved to a mixed group of people I already knew, mainly to gain a bit of social proof and not be the loner in the corner.

After about 10 minutes in the group I decided to really see who was out, its only a small venue, but it was heaving so very difficult to see individual groups.

While moving around the place I was approached by a 7 and a 6, the 7 was showing a lot of interest and made numerous comments on my shirt (it was by no means a peacocky shirt) after some escalating kino on her part and a few negs from myself (hey that'll cost you to touch hope you've brought your purse etc) she appeared very interested and i figured it would be the perfect opportunity to practice a bit of gaming with her.

I managed to isolate the 7 from her friend to a table in a quieter area of the bar, here I ran a very successful cube with her, she was impressed at how accurate a stranger was at knowing her!

The conversation never lapsed and things were going good, then her friend returned and put a halt to this, saying that she "wanted to dance" and that she wasn't going to be stood on her own. This is where I lost the upper hand and the 7 was removed across the bar.

While I'm not overly bothered about losing this girl I am looking for some advice on how I could have dealt better with the unhappy friend situation.

I returned to the group of friends I had seen originally and got into a dominant position at the bar to regain some social standing, but ultimately the scenario left me a bit frustrated with myself for not dealing with it better and I had no further successes.

Chappers089 26-05-2014 10:34 AM

Thanks
Not the kind of advice I was looking for.
But helpful nonetheless.:biggthumpup:

So how should I have handled the situation? I'm aware I've made a few errors but I'm very new to sarging, I had no options last night other than to go out solo.
I figured that approaching a group of people until I found someone to approach would be a good move as opposed to being stood on my own?

Chappers089 26-05-2014 10:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kowalski (Post 90109)
You are working and, therefore, not socialising.

If you want to become better at socialising, you need to actually socialise in social situations and that means treating people and the time and other resources you spend with them as an end in itself and not as a means to some other end.


Peace,

kowalski


Thanks, lesson definitely learned.

top-hat 26-05-2014 02:01 PM

Stop these Pua terms too. You don't use the 3 second rule for buying your groceries. You shouldn't think of it as something more difficult than it is.

Chappers089 26-05-2014 03:12 PM

Ok thanks, as I said I'm new to this so still trying to find my feet and looking for advice on how to improve myself.


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