22/9/2015
I walked into town yesterday, feeling like I didn't want to do anything. I approached a girl outside Tottenham court station. She stopped, liked it. But for some reason I ejected. I could clearly see she wanted to know what would happen next.

I kept on coming up with excuses not to approach, "it's dark, I feel like a stalker, she's not hot, she's too hot, ok fine just another". The next one was a black girl, who eyed me as I started walking to another girl. She was hotter and well she eyed me. It went ok, I could've done better, but sadly it didn't get past you look nice.

As stating in my previous I've learnt smiling more is important, so they don't think you're boring...or crazy. I need to persist more, but I'll let myself off for it being the second one and I really wasn't feeling it.

Finally the last one was a tourist which I approached in Covent Garden, Brazillian. Ended up taking her off to a pub for a drink. She was a bore and kept talking about Brazillian politics. In fact I had more fun making fun of the Americans next to us. I felt like it wasn't on so I left to go home after an hour. Maybe I should've persisted. Who knows, added her on Facebook. The only thing I'd fault myself on in the stop is talking too fast and not building up anticipation for my teases. I was nervous and wanted to blurt out everything at once.

I'm quite happy though, in the past 3 days I've spoken to 19 girls and got my first instant date.

The thing about Daygame is it can be work. I'm not going to deny that. I restarted this journal again when I had stopped going out with people. Mentally this is tough. There is noone there to pull you out of the work rut (which has affected me quite alot this week).

Hence why momentum comes in. I work a job which is solving my company's software issues. This can be rewarding, but it is a solo thing. I work in a team of 6, our conversation is on Skype. Socially this isn't ideal, not only do I come back from work drained, but I am socially dry.

To get lubricated, I need to do warm ups. It depends how I feel, it could be as basic as asking for the directions to an obscure location, to telling a girl she's hot and why. I usually class the first few as throwaways. Efficiently, this is not ideal but it works. And as I don't go out with anyone until the weekends, it is my only option.

Particularly in my last post, I sounded negative. This is due to writing it at work. I didn't feel that way, in fact I think taking a girl from the street into a bar is a result I need, to prove to myself that I can move forward.

During my last year of uni, my daygame was top class. I was shagging a bird a month, and was putting minimal mental and approach effort in. When I would go out I'd feel like I was walking on a cloud. The past couple of months I've been in a hardcore plateau. My motivation had diminished, but through success, I can move forward.

Daygame can be incredibly enjoyable, but this is due to one thing: interactions going well. Success breeds success. This is why the emphasis is mainly on your mood and momentum.

I completely agree that I should care less and focus on enjoying myself, be that through chatting to birds or not.

In your last comment you ask me to describe how my warm ups differ from other approaches. I believe that I have some sort of lack of belief within myself which prevents me from persisting, I will just eject out of a conversation (as I did yesterday in my first approach) and say I still did the approach, essentially to get my numbers up.

It's funny, I stopped posting my daygame stuff and started only posting when I was getting laid. Honestly, without daygame, I would not have gotten laid. Daygame gave me a confidence that I had not had before. And this was after I got over the running out of things to say. I only post my problems and major successes here. You can see through my writing style on my journal, I put very little effort. But only do with a problem or success.

Sadly, I was/am going through that again. But that is because I lost confidence, due to not doing enough, or some other aspect of my life had affected me. I will admit I should be alot better than I am now and I shouldn't be sabotaging myself by exiting conversations so soon or doing pointless warmups.

As I stated previously. Due to not doing enough and losing confidence I started doing warmups again. I made the decision to go back to the basics. This I think has been successful.

In do have fun, maybe not currently. But I have had fun. And it all started from Daygame. I would get one piece of success, that would make me confident in other areas of my life. Like getting my first job preparing for an exam and dealing with issues with people. I'm not saying I rely on women to get happiness, but success is still success. If I passed an exam it would help me with women. It is all about the overall mood.

The difference between me now and me in university when I was getting laid is a few things:
- Having my friends around me
- Having a hobby (American Football)
- Going to the gym
- My Daygame
- Getting laid once a month

I hate to blame it on any specific thing but I think the reason I've been in a rut for so long is because:
- Moving back to Luton
- Living with parents (lacking independence)
- Not having a friend base here
- Wasting at least 3 hours of my day travelling to and from work (= lack of sleep)
- Breaking my wrist
- Not being able to work out for a year

Maybe I am mad for continuing to daygame instead of working on my career, but I can't think of a better way to chat to birds whilst saving money. From having success earlier this year and on off throughout the year, it is the only way to move forward. I've also not posted alot of my stuff on here. This year I've been laid 4 times nearly 5 (nearly had one in the toilet). Probably about 15 dates. This is all from living at home and doing stuff away from home.

Now to change my sistuation I have decided to:
- Stop being stuck in a rut and actually try with birds again
- Move out and to London (be that through this job or through another, all my friends are in London, independence and somewhere to bring birds back)
- Search for a new job in London (so I can get a good nights kip and travel to work)
- Started going to the gym for 2 weeks now(keep me energised and stress free throughout the day).

I have started all of this in the last month, I know I've been riding on the line. How can I chat to birds when I'm annoyed.

I enjoyed reading the alphabet post, I think the issue is more that I sabotage myself. But this is a good way to start.

These are decisions you've made. Besides the coppers, you knew this before doing it. Maybe it is an age thing or maybe it is me personally. My issues that I've stated are just life issues. I'm not some depressed kid crying every night because his life isn't going as planned and I'm sure you're the same.

What I mean by sabotage, is I will go up to a girl and by habit I will just exit the interaction. This does not happen all the time, but generally during the first few. It is something I need to force myself out of. I don't know why, all I know is it happens occasionally.

I have scrapped ACTA. It's similar to alphabet (gives you a topic to talk about).

Maybe this is denial, but I think all this thinking will be more of a hindrance. It is good to think about it sometimes. But to prevent me thinking about it all the time, maybe it is better to just let it go and not think about it. My game is full of ups and downs. I've stated here previously, I use this forum usually during my downs.

But I suppose we all do that, instead of thinking about all the problems in our lives, we choose to either look passed them and look forward or look at them, create a plan of action and move forward with that.

"But denial also has its benefits. "
Seems like you're attacking me, but I'll put my 2 cents: You are right, it all makes logical sense. But don't use some snidey comment to give a point, give me food for thought, give me anything but a silly comment...or maybe I'm reading it incorrectly?

So last week I went off out another two times on Thursday and Saturday.

I did about 5 on Thursday and 5 on Saturday where I did another 5. I randomly met up with this lad who saw me approach. All was well the first day, but the second day he started moaning about his life. Real party pooper. I thrive on myself having a laugh with others.

As a couple of you guys know, I did some training on the weekend. Paid a bit of money, but I believe it is money well spent (I'll write up a full report later). Today was the first session back since then and it went well...

I did 10 approaches, the first of which was a girl waiting for her friend, thought I'd give her a compliment as I was on my way to my mate. I started to eject but she said something and we kept chatting for a bit.

The second was this lovely little Scottish girl, it was quite a short conversation, she seemed like she wanted to leave but I probably could've kept going.

Finally after an approach where the girl blew me out and said in a deep Russian accent "what you want". I hit the jackpot. I spoke to this girl for quite a while, it was all going well until she said she was engaged. Ah well, still got her number as she was a lovely girl.

The next one of significance was another with a boyfriend. Her body language said she wanted it, but last minute said no. Very sexual interaction.

I had a lovely chat with a Swedish stunner on her way to pick up her friend at Heathrow, I was starting to run out of things to say with this one. Just couldn't keep myself on the ball.

Finally I got a number off a Posh South West London girl. The conversation wasn't on point, she was quite a shy girl. But we got there in the end.

I think what I need to work on is slowing down a bit in the beginning and teasing a bit more, towards the second half I was speaking too quickly and the chat was a bit bland. Note: I'm doing the model correctly and it is paying off. I will work on the above over the next couple of sessions and see where I'm at.

What do you mean by this?

It's the daygame model. Paying off means my interactions are lasting longer, going well, fun and I'm getting numbers

Whats the daygame model?

Bit like mystery's MM but not so structured.
This will explain better: