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Default 12-03-2017, 02:18 PM

Fuck me, having a quick peek back a page or 2 of this has reminded me how inactive I've been the last 2 years.

In 2014 I set out to daygame the shit out of Belfast, & I did quite a bit. I don't think I got laid through it but I wonder how things would be now if I hadn't allowed the momentum to fizzle out to absolutely nothing.

Like I said, I was fat back than, & now I'm not. So how's about finding out what difference, if any, being in good shape has on daygame?

On Friday morning I got out of bed at 7am as I had not had one wink of sleep for overthinking about something. I decided to go out for a walk and a coffee before work at 10.

I went for a coffee at Costa in Victoria square (shopping mall) and walked outside. At one of the entrances to the mall there are 2 rows of sheltered seats facing each other. On one side there was this sexy redheaded girl of about 25 sitting there having her own coffee & a smoke. Wearing a short skirt, sexy legs & had a lovely tanned skin etc.

It was raining so I used that as an excuse to sit across from her (or stand, as the seat was wet). I looked at her & her legs a few times & thought WTF will I say - I wanted to crack a joke about it being pretty early for skirts that short, but then she smiled & opened me instead.

I am trying to remember what she said to me but I have no idea, perhaps something about the coffee. I'm unsure, all I gave a fuck about was that now I'm talking to her.

Within a minute or 2 I'm over in front of her. Another couple of minutes I sit beside her. We chat fluidly for 20 minutes. She mentioned voluntary work & I tell her about mine. She said she was sitting here "because I'm supposed to open up shop but it's Friday & nobody will be there for ages"

We chatted for about 20 minutes & then she see's one of the security guards who assists in opening up the shops & she proceeds to abruptly leave, grabbing her bag & extinguishing her cigarette (her 3rd in those 20 minutes!). I say hang on a second luv, how about meeting up after work this evening for a drink or something? She turns and says, nah I can't sorry, but thanks anyway, have a nice day. I reciprocate.

So that's that, nothing major to report I guess, but just something to kick off with now that I'm going to get my now-in-shape ass back at the daygaming.

I'm gunna do things differently this time though. Not entirely sure how, but likely that I'll be attempting to be more spontaneous as opposed to running around the city centre like a headless chicken Yad stopping girls (altho I am not suggesting I'll never approach in this way ever again).


Ps. I cringed at some of my posts on the previous couple of pages


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Default 13-03-2017, 08:58 PM

Even if you spend an hour every couple of days doing 'yad stop's or whatever who gives a fuck if it gets you meeting girls.

If you spoke to 1 new girl every day for the next year I'm sure one of them would be into you and you into her. Then I'm sure your penis would find a way into her vagina.


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Default 13-03-2017, 11:26 PM

True, I did go out & do endless "Yad stops" & thought I was the boss for doing it.

It does actually feel boss, as it takes mega balls to do it. But you also feel a lot of other things too - adrenaline, anxious, nervous, excited, amongst others. Some girls thought I was on drugs I was so hyped up at times.

I think that all the feelings you feel, are felt because it's kinda wrong & unnatural, forced. Some girls got genuinely weirded out. Others were pleasantly surprised.

Coming home with numbers feels like a big achievement. It's short lived though as most of them flake.

Ultimately though, what I did was like K said, uncomfortable & out of character. I only did these type of approaches when I was in "daygame" mode & for those specific afternoons when we did it. If i was just going about my normal day I felt relaxed as I wasn't in daygame mode, but as soon as I decide I'm in "mode", I straight away feel the anxieties & fears cropping up.

What I need to do is forget about all this "let's go out & do daygame" shit, & just take opportunity as I go about my day.


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Default 14-03-2017, 09:08 PM

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True, I did go out & do endless "Yad stops" & thought I was the boss for doing it.

It does actually feel boss, as it takes mega balls to do it. But you also feel a lot of other things too - adrenaline, anxious, nervous, excited, amongst others. Some girls thought I was on drugs I was so hyped up at times.
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A "Yad" stop is just a label for stopping a girl in bold way. If you were over excited or your emotions were getting the better of you of course it would put women off. The idea is you're meant in control of yours or at least aware of them and not react to them.

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I think that all the feelings you feel, are felt because it's kinda wrong & unnatural, forced. Some girls got genuinely weirded out. Others were pleasantly surprised.
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It's unusual to talk to strangers. I'll give you that. I don't think that ever is going to feel easy unless you do it lots. Even then I don't imagine it ever feeling 100% normal.


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Coming home with numbers feels like a big achievement. It's short lived though as most of them flake.
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Why were you asking for numbers? It's easy to go for a number when you feel anxious. It's harder to keep talking and make a connection.


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Ultimately though, what I did was like K said, uncomfortable & out of character. I only did these type of approaches when I was in "daygame" mode & for those specific afternoons when we did it. If i was just going about my normal day I felt relaxed as I wasn't in daygame mode, but as soon as I decide I'm in "mode", I straight away feel the anxieties & fears cropping up.
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Sometimes it's fine to feel uncomfortable and out of character. (Jesus you sound like a pussy saying that). Anything PUA related on this forum has a dirty name now. I assume you can drive a car. When you learnt to drive I'm sure you felt uncomfortable but you didn't question spending an hour each day learning. Yes it's great if you can meet people in your everyday life - however I suspect you don't meet many girls otherwise why are you even contemplating day game.


If you were just doing the same things over and over again then it probably explains why you didn't meet girls. I'm saying this from my own experience. These days I can honestly say about 1 in 4 girls I stop too I'll feel some connection with. After that there are lots of variables (if she available / logistics / time).

Also that bullshit you were saying about, now I am in shape will it make a difference to women. I think I saw the photos of you before and you weren't exactly obese. Yes I'm sure looks / tummy size play a part but not as much as you were making out.


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Default 14-03-2017, 09:32 PM

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Mark, he did that already and did not get anything from it. And even if someone were to lay one girl for every 365 girls you on, that's so terribly inefficient as to not be worth the effort. People should give a fuck because the goal is not - get meeting girls.

It's relative. I don't know Dan's history of meeting girls but if a guy hadn't been laid in a 2 or 3 years ( I know one) then fucking one would be good.
Obviously cold approaching women in whatever context requires some degree of volume as a lot will just not be available.

Also see my reply to Dan (To me it sounds like he was just doing the same thing over and over again).

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Good game is always that you are there doing something that you are there to do, then you see a girl and chat her... whether day or night.
That's so easy for you to say now. Yes in theory that's great. However what if your life is not bringing you into contact with a lot of young women. I work in IT in Canary wharf and go to a running club. Both don't have lots of young women. Putting myself in a place where there are girls for an hour every other day or so seems logical to me.


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In threads where kids go out to do day game, you never hear of them just randomly chatting a cute girl at some other time of day while they are going about their shit. What does that prove? It proves that they are fatally uncomfortable doing it. So that comes across. And they don't get laid. If they we comfy doing it, they'd do it without all the ritual and psyching yourself up and trying to build momentum. All of which is counter productive anyway.
Day game has helped me no end. Today I was at my run club and I can think of 2 of 3 times I initiated conversations when in the past I wouldn't have. I'll do it with women too.

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In general, going up to random girls to hit on them in any setting is inefficient and doesn't help you when you come across a girl where there's mutual attraction.
Efficiently is relative too, it can come down to your aptitude / skill level (like many things in life). I am much more likely to pull a girl off the street and kiss her now than I was 2 years ago. That's not fluke.

IMO - cold approach is the hardest way to seduce women but it's best way to improve your ability to seduce women*. As there is virtually no come-back. In situations with more context I think it is easier to pick-up women if your game is already good.

*Assuming you're actually modifying your behaviours - not being a pussy and applying intelligence.


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Default 15-03-2017, 01:39 PM

Most of this was back in 2014. To be fair I did make some bold approaches & kissed some of them (including a glamour model).

Perhaps I'll try a few Yad stops anyway & see what happens.


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Default 15-03-2017, 01:47 PM

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Most of this was back in 2014. To be fair I did make some bold approaches & kissed some of them (including a glamour model).

Perhaps I'll try a few Yad stops anyway & see what happens.
Dan
Any plans to get back on sarging?
Your diary was still really entertaining


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Default 15-03-2017, 07:37 PM

Yeah I do plan to, especially now that it's summer time. Both day and night.

Been back on Facebook for a month after a 5 month break. Time to ditch that bitch again.

Most people are "happy" to spend 5/10 hours a day on Facebook & other waste-of-time shit like that. When I logged back in after 5 months, it was like nothing had changed, with the same shite being posted, & the same people posting that shite - I swear it was a depressing realization. It seems that whether I was gone for 5 months or 5 years, it's going to be the same thing. People are zombies, wasting their lives away.

I try to waste as little time as possible doing pointless shit. Of course, I'm guilty of it a lot in the past, & it's a hard habit to break - getting distracted easily - but as soon as I find myself there, I snap out of it.


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Default 17-03-2017, 06:33 PM

I unfollow 99% of people on facebook so I only see what I want to see (my own profile).
If I really and bothered I can go to their profile and see what random shit they've been sharing. It's like my phone all push notifications are generally turned off (email too). I have to go into the App's to check.


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Default 17-03-2017, 09:54 PM

Dan here are some questions for you:

What has changed since 2015?
How have you improved since then?
Why did the last endeavour yield so few results?
How will this time be different?

You put a lot of effort into all of this and with the right game plan, direction; and you drop the act and be normal, you will get some great results.

If I'm right in thinking then you want to be getting regularly laid by new decent girls or having a high-quality girlfriend. Phone numbers and kissing are great. They're sorta like treats, they make you feel good and perk up your day but they're insufficient for your life.


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