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Default 08-02-2014, 01:19 AM

Thinking back to most of them yes I could have done them better by chatting more after the compliment, but I'm aware of this as my sticking point & I'll work on this next & overcome it.

I was just throwing myself into it like crazy for those couple of hours, & I think I've come to a point now where I'm like "Why the fuck was I so crippled with AA in regards to this Yad stop?" Although, it really does take balls. I'm just able to say that to myself now because I'm on the other side.

I even almost did a mother daughter set today too. That's another milestone for another day.

Serendipity, go for it man. The worst thing you can do is not do it. I was kicking myself & going home with that gutless worthless feeling of regret & failure for too long. Eventually yes you will do it, but why not now?...... I'm just trying to save you some time, & a lot of going home pissed off with yourself.


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Default 08-02-2014, 08:48 AM

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Nothing to lose if the other option is to just let her go.
I like this line & will be keeping it in mind on each future approach.


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Default 08-02-2014, 09:10 AM

As you're getting further into the interactions now and want to work on getting over the initial 'hump' and hooking / keeping it going it might be useful to listen to an in-field live audio of Nick Krauser stopping a Latvian girl in London during the day (URL link below).

She is what he calls a 'maybe' girl so he has to work quite hard. He has a daygame model he follows that's on his site and in his book but if you're following the blueprint probably better sticking with that for now and not overloading yourself. But the recording might be useful.

Latvian audio - YouTube


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Default 08-02-2014, 07:13 PM

Had a uni tutorial today so only got into town at 4:30. Met 2 mates who had attempted a few girls. I have to admit I failed on a few hotties myself. I still sometimes have trouble pulling the trigger immediatey, I'll be using excuses like she's not old enough when I know deep down she is. However, that is kind of a genuine fear because there are so many youngsters around who are dolled up to look about 5 years older than they really are.


Anyways, only done one stop today, but it was a good one, a blonde 9, & I really enjoyed it because I improved on something..

We were walking & a sexy blonde with shopping bags was coming the other way. I was looking at her & checking her out & she had looked at me too. When she passed I looked back at her & she looked back at me, so I didn't need any more reason to approach her..

She saw me coming & said something like what are you doing? (half laughing). I ran around the front to be face to face with her & told her I was just coming over to tell her she looked really nice. She started freaking out & looking around her, "omg I'm a bit scared whats going on?" (she wasn't serious just surprised). I said nothings going on, I just felt like telling you you're lovely.

To be honest so much happened for the next 5 minutes I can't remember everything word for word, but here is some of the dialogue..

She was walking slowly away from me, in the direction she had been going, still loudly stating that she was really scared, & was looking disorientated but with a big grin on her face. I stayed with her reassuring her there was no reason to be scared & she was overreacting to a damn compliment.

Me: "I just wanted to stop you & find out what you look like"

Her: What I look like? (laughing)

Me: "No, I meant find out what you were like not look like, see now you're making ME scared & I'm messing up my words"

yadda yadda

Her: "So do you do this all the time just going up to girls & chatting them up?"

Me: "No you're the very first I've ever approached ever"

Her: "YEAH RIGHT HA""

Me: "Seriously, you should feel really special for giving me the power to do this"

Her: "No you've done this before, I would say you do this all the time"

Yadda yadda. I'm from here, you're from there, blah blah

(I think I asked her out then)

Her: "I'm sort of seeing someone"

Me: "Me too, but it's not serious. If we're only sort of seeing them it's no big deal"

Her: "No, I don't do that"

Me: "Well if you happen to break up with them soon then you'll have someone to call ha"

(we joke around for another minute or two before we're about to go our separate ways)

Her: "You can have my facebook, I'm not giving you my number. In fact I am gunna put on facebook about the random guy who came up to me in the street & chatted me up" (LOL)

We say goodbyes & go separate ways.


During the entire interaction we had an audience. There were some youths right behind her, behind me there were lots of people beside the statue, & beside the youths there were about 10 guys in tuxedos.




The fact that she said "No, you do this all the time" is a good thing I reckon. It means I must be coming across with confidence in myself, & good body language. At the start we were both flapping around because it was funny, but I was piercing her with eye contact after that.


Milestone - Stayed in set after scaring her, turning it into a joke. Only yesterday I was bailing straight away as soon as I sensed I'd made them jump. It makes sense to stay with them, at the very least to reassure them. I've got ethics haha.


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Default 08-02-2014, 07:44 PM

And based on all the onlookers, this pretty much also kills your "spotlight effect" theory as well
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Default 08-02-2014, 08:52 PM

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And based on all the onlookers, this pretty much also kills your "spotlight effect" theory as well
It would be awesome if you actually could kill it altogether. Maybe you can. I hope you can. However experiences like this one definitely help to overcome it bit by bit.


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Default 09-02-2014, 12:52 AM

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I was looking at her & checking her out & she had looked at me too. When she passed I looked back at her & she looked back at me, so I didn't need any more reason to approach her..

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The fact that she said "No, you do this all the time" is a good thing I reckon. It means I must be coming across with confidence in myself, & good body language. At the start we were both flapping around because it was funny, but I was piercing her with eye contact after that.
Dude, this is very encouraging. You are detecting the IoIs and then acting without trying to rationalise it too much. A guy going on his gut feeling is very exciting to a woman I reckon. And for you, it's social freedom, being who you want to be. You are also not being reactive by going in your head and giving up because you don't get immediate validation or approval from her.

This is the part of daygame that 97% of guys cannot handle and so they just give up. You are pushing through the pain barrier. I would say yes wallow in the validation that you've done this, keep doing it and push on.

I know where you are coming from, you love the buzz. Just keep focussed on that bit by bit. I can see you're starting to open up more and the girls are responding to it usually in a positive way. The one's that don't, that's fine because they are screening themselves out. You're not out for a picnic you're looking for hot girls who are game.


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Default 09-02-2014, 09:20 PM

In the city today. I went with the intentions of the few things I wanted to do like find a pet shop & maybe buy more fish for my new fish tank, with approaching girls a side activity to what I was doing. That was my mindset.

I'll be straight up honest, I saw a lot of hot girls today that I didn't approach. Some I went to do it but stopped, Some I told myself "she's too young", & some I just didn't bother because I was content with knowing that I COULD do it if I wanted. I was comfortable with that fact, but it's not fucking good enough.

Anyways, my first approach was a..........Newton Faulkner. Ok I know, contain your surprise lads. I got a pic & went about my day.

I stopped a girl literally 30 seconds later. She was gorgeous & dark haired, 8/10. I talked & assumed stuff, she said she was only out of bed. I said WTF you say you're only out of bed yet you look like this? (She was dressed like a mix of sexy & professional). I told her I'd just met an A list celebrity, she asked who, I showed her the pic. She had a boyfriend.

I did my rounds looking for the pet shop & was genuinely going about my business, but I realized I was slacking (like I said earlier, seeing hotties & being content that I COULD IF I WANTED), so after I told myself I was a dick the next gorgeous girl that passed me I turned & stopped. I yad stopped & made her jump a little. This made me nervous. I then said "No it's alright, I just wanted to come over & tell you that you look -- wait for it -- "cool"

Yes, I told her she looked cool. I was meant to say lovely, but the word cool came out. If I didn't laugh I'd cry. I let her walk on feeling sooo silly.

Then I met my mates who are staying over tonight for the Newton Faulkner gig. I saw a sexxxxy blonde. I went for her. She was thankful but conflustered. It turned out her boyfriend was right beside her, who I didn't see, who my friends pointed out after it. Which to me is a good thing because I clearly didn't give a shit who saw, since her fella was there. He didn't do anything.

Milestones - Approaching a girl who's boyfriend was with her I suppose. And meeting Newton Faulkner.


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Default 15-02-2014, 04:36 PM

Out with the new guy on Valentine's day.

It was pissing rain & fucking shit, so we went into house of fraser.

I dared myself to go up to a gorgeous blonde who worked there & ask her if she wanted a date for Valentine's evening, so I went up & asked her.

She thought it was funny & cool of me, but she had a fella. Rather than walk away I stayed & talked to her about that. Her fella sent her flowers to work & all that jazz, I told her to pass on my appreciation of his appreciation of his girl. She also loved the fact that I was holding a seethrough umbrella with a pink handle that had a big red heart shaped loveheart balloon attached to the end (something funny & silly new guy had done & gave to me as he'd bought himself a designer umbrella & gave me the funny one). Had a chat & then left leaving her looking like she was feeling all cute.

Afyer buying some cute panties for a girl I'm seeing (she bought me hilarious Batman boxers, it was the least I could do) I decided to pop into topman, & I spotted a coat I've been looking for a LONG time. Anyways, after trying it on & posing in the mirror for a while I decided to buy it. I went up to the counter with it on, & there were 3 tills one with a guy on the right, in the middle a SUPER hot blonde, & another nice blonde on the left. I didn't know who was gunna serve me so the guy said "take your pick" I looked at the superhot blonde & went to her. I started telling them the story of how I'd been looking for this coat for almost a year. The guy was chatting with me about it while the blonde folded & packed it. After a minute she joined in & said she had just bought the female version of my coat the day before, I replied with something about the colours of our coats.

I REALLY WANTED TO ASK HER OUT! And I looked behind me at the few guys in the Que.

When she took my money & handed me the receipt, I walked away without asking her. As I walked away I could have swore she said to her colleagues "if he'd asked me out I would have said yes"

That may sound almost silly, but that's what I thought she said. It was when I got near to the doors of the shop that it registered what she might have said. I wanted to go back but my head was spinning & I never did.

Whether the above is actually true or not - that she said what I thought she said - it's what I experienced & felt there & then, & that is a lesson to DO WHAT YOU FEEL IN THE MOMENT


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Default 15-02-2014, 05:26 PM

keep up the good work man! your posts are interesting to read and are inspiring me to get back into day game. I have been busy recently but i will have t get back into it over half term.
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