Pick-up Tourettes
 

Recently I have found myself just running game without thinking, even when I'm not even overly attracted to a girl, just because I can. A case in point happened on Thursday night;

As I was leaving Waitrose (check me out) the other day I was unchaining my bike and a sporty girl rocks up with the female version of my bike (Bianchi Nirone 7 Xenon ;) ) , cue conversation:

Me: Hey Nice bike (ok not my best opener)
Her I was about to say the same to you (with a smile)
Me: We should go on a bike ride!
Her: Erm.. ok where? (looking coy)
Me: Well we could go to the Double Lock, or if you think you can keep up the Turf Locks?
Her: I think I could keep up!
Me: We'll see... lets do Saturday afternoon!

Cue normal number exchanging rubbish blah blah blah.

Moral of the story - I don't get that kind of success at Lidls.

"Hey nice bike" is a fantastic opener!

No need to compare it to other (cleverer/funnier/whatever) stuff you may or may not have said.

I said very similar the other day to a bird walking her dog - "nice dog" then noticed her engagement ring. Oh well

Moral of story - say what you see

Not quite, Girls racing bikes tend to have a slightly shorter crossbar, different frame angles and a more appropriate seat and probably some other bits and pieces I'm blissfully unaware of


maybe we should start a new thread "worst openers that actually worked"

I agree, I'm just enjoying myself and wanted to share, game/authenticity/big nob/pick-up whatever you want to call it, I didn't have this kind of confidence/luck/apathy 18months ago :D

Exactly. Aldi's where it's at mate.

Sounds like a specific city in the South West of England ;)

Erm to be honest it's hard to put my finger on specifics. I worked a lot on getting comfortable with my own self worth.

I got myself into shape physically which helped a lot. On top of that I shaved my hair off. Although I was never overly ugly or fat before the combination of those 2 things along with a little researched shop reduced my physical insecurities.

For gaining inner confidence I watched a couple of hours of RSD Blueprint. Pretty much what I picked up here was all you need to be is a funny confident assertive guy who does what he wants
So i applied that to myself. There are some aspects of my personality such as my manners, principles, my sense of humour and some of my geeky pastimes that make me who I am, however the way I used to supplicate and work around other people nervously was what let me down.

So I started going out and being more social, more lunches with friends or just lunches in cafe's and social places. I went out between 1 & 3 times a week. I was social myself and sometimes I just watched others interact - you see how other people do things right and wrong and I actually realized that in comparison to the majority of people I'm above average in attractiveness and intelligence, that's all I need. I soon got a feel for how people work socially and start practicing it myself. I worked on my body language, doing things with purpose. I applied the same techniques to my speech, slower and a more assertive style. I stopped asking as many questions and not only did I apply it to my social life but also my work, family etc. As Jaz pointed out, it's not about having game, its about being authentic, confident with who you are as a person, assertive, tactfully honest and extended far beyond picking-up girls.

Now even my closest friends say there is such a big difference from even 1 year ago.

Sometimes a little deconstruction is needed to improve on something, to get it to the stage where it is "natural" - just dont overdo it :biggthumpup: