Kowalski thanks for your thoughts, the good thing is at no point have I toyed with the idea of leaving. We sat down last night and went through bits online of the typical symptoms and effects they can have on partners and highlighted what each of us feel about them and if they are actually occurring in our relationship.

I agree...honesty is definitely best. My goal is to combat this and get to a point where I personally can understand it and move the relationship to a higher level of happiness.

You're also right about not helping her, a man's natural instinct is to "Fix things" etc and I admit the first thing i wanted to do was to fix it all. However I do want to learn more about it and how to help her cope better instead, which I dont see as a weakness on my part, but gaining empathy.

Cufs