This is a pre-existing condition not caused by factors relating to your relationship. Therefore, it is her problem which she should have sorted out before getting into the relationship and is not covered under the policy of your relationship. You're her boyfriend not her therapist. Don't cross that line. Don't try to help at all, don't adapt your behaviour to it in any way and don't even read about her 'condition'.

You give away your true feelings about this in your post - disappointment and incredulity. That is how you should be speaking to her about this. Lying to her is not helping anyone.

I'd be looking at all this as warning signs. I'd speak to her about my personal goals and about my expectations for a relationship in a non-manipulative manner, then I'd prepare myself to end the relationship.


Peace,

kowalski