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Cool How to get over your EX - 06-07-2017, 10:14 AM

I realised recently that allot of new members find themselves here after the result of a horrific break up. In my personal experience, I would say generally men end up worse off after a relationship ends. I could hypothesise why that is (and I have some good ideas) but that's not important right now. If you have opened this thread, you're probably looking for some advice, well I've got some for you. Follow these steps to the latter and with some time, you WILL be back on track.

One thing to note, if you do not follow these steps (especially the first two) then this isn't going to work and you are cheating yourself. It's your choice.


1. Cut ALL contact

20 years ago you could just throw away their phone number, but in 2017 cutting contact is actually more complicated than it sounds. Here are some suggestions but I may well be missing things (you will get the idea)

- Block number on all phones then delete number
- Block and delete email address
- Unfriend from Facebook, the block her profile
- Unfriend all her friends, then block them too
- Remove any adds on SnapChat and Instagram then BLOCK
- Block her work number from your phone
- Tell your friends and family to never mention her ever again, she is dead.


2. Get rid of everything

Get rid of all items that are associated with her. Simply grab a bin bag and walk around your house/flat and any item that has any sort of feeling attached to it, throw it in the bag. Any clothes she may have left, any presents she bought you over the years, certainly any photos (both physical and digital). There should be no single trace that this person ever excited. This bag is then tipped or burnt.

3. Write a list

Grab a pen and paper, then find a quiet area. You are going to put together a list of 10 things that you fucking HATE about your ex. What do you mean you can't think of anything? Well put it this way, if she was Miss Perfect and your Soul Mate then logic would dictate that you would still be together? Right? Yeah, she's a fucking bellend and you know it. Start with the things that used to annoy you, oh hold on, she wouldn't let you go on that camping trip with your mates last month, that was annoying. Before you know it you will have pages upon pages in front of you.

You're gonna be pretty angry once you have done this, that is good. It mean's you are starting to realise that maybe the break up was a good thing. This list is now your bible. I want you to keep this on you at all times, whenever she crosses your mind. Pull that list out and read it. Learn to hate.

4. Activities

Since you've been a pussy-whipped, cuck bitch for the past x years. You probably fucked off all your friends and have basically nothing interesting going on in your life. Relationships take allot of investment. Well now you have all the time in the world. So do something! You don't have some women judging your every move so do what you want. Be pro-active, invest in something you are interesting in. Want to try boxing? join the nearest club. How about learning a language. It's up to you, don't spend all your time in a dark room cry wanking.

5. Positive Self improvement

Now it's time to make you better. Being on here is a good start! One thing I would say straight away, is if you don't already, go to a gym. Join your local and work out 4 /5 times a week. Sort your diet out too whilst your at it. Get in shape. You will feel and look better from this.

Your confidence is gonna be in shreds, but take this time to pull yourself back up. Any self-help or motivational books will be of great benefit to you. Think big.

6. Work on other (non-romantic) relationships

Friends and family may not have seen you in a while. These people do get neglected when you end up in a relationship, so it's time to make up for that. Go out with your mates more, make an effort to reach out to them. Same with family. If you have no mates (lol) then see rule 3. Put yourself out their, the associates and friends will follow.

7. GET LAID!

At some point you HAVE to do this. Get the motor oiled. Now, I'm not going to judge you if fresh from a break up you end up banging some fatty, it's better than nothing. What's important here is to realise that there is other women out there, vagina is very common.

8. Put yourself out there

Time to get women back in your life. These days, this is actually very easy. Online dating is a rich source of desperate chicks who are probably just as heartbroken and damaged as you. Go out there, date. Be pro-active in building attraction with the opposite sex. Why not 'Find A Wingman' on this very forum?


IN CASE OF EMERGENCY!

So you got pissed and called her number up from memory? She turned up at your doorstep and begged for you back? Ok, back up fella.

This is not easy, in fact this may be the hardest thing you have ever done in your life. Rome wasn't built in a day. So you are going to have set-backs and this is going to take a indeterminate amount of time. Truth is it may well take years to 'get over' someone, what do you want me to say? But you have to stick with it.

If you get a set back, then I suggest you go back to Step 2 then work back up from there. Wash, rinse, repeat.

Also, stop being a fag and man up.

Good luck.
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Default 06-07-2017, 02:34 PM

Another one...

If possible, move the fuck away. (If not possible, make it possible)

This is even more necessary if you live in the same town.

I moved the fuck away 50 miles after a big split from a bird.

It's the best thing I've ever done.

So..

9. Move the fuck away


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Default 08-07-2017, 11:07 AM

Great post. Sticky it. And that's not because of my personal situation. We don't have many great posts that are full of practical value.


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Default 10-07-2017, 06:11 AM

Good post.

Do you just use Tinder for online or anything else?
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Default 10-07-2017, 07:36 AM

Should start with - let yourself be sad for a bit, like a week or two, it's ok to feel.

And number 2 as written is crazy. If you went to Machu Picchu with your girl and probably are never gonna have another opportunity to visit and you got photos of that you delete because you are going through a perfectly normal response to a life event, you have done a stupid thing. If you did it whilst emotional that's one thing, but as advice given in cold blood it's bad. Same goes for gifts, some of that shit is expensive and / or useful... you gonna burn / bin that laptop, guitar or rare vinyl because she bought them? No.

There's no going back but it doesn't have to end as a full stop either. A girl I loved and lived with for years, once the dust had settled from the breakup, became an erstwhile fuck buddy for the following 7 years.


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And number 2 as written is crazy. i
The advice is harsh, but covers up as many opportunities as possible for you to not fall backwards. I can't trust faggots not to be faggots.

I'd be good at getting rid of dead bodies too I think.
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Default 22-07-2017, 01:23 PM

An analysis of studies on writing therapy. If thinking about a past thing still brings up emotion in you, writing about it (that is, addressing it through writing) may help.

https://web.archive.org/web/20111112...ker%201997.pdf


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Default 22-07-2017, 06:51 PM

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If thinking about a past thing still brings up emotion in you
Yes. In fact even today as I was driving it did.

It's nowhere near as venomous as it used to be 3/4 years ago, but it comes to the surface from time to time to remind me that it still exists.

I'll have a read at this as soon as I get a quiet moment.


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I realised recently that allot of new members find themselves here after the result of a horrific break up. In my personal experience, I would say generally men end up worse off after a relationship ends. I could hypothesise why that is (and I have some good ideas) but that's not important right now. If you have opened this thread, you're probably looking for some advice, well I've got some for you. Follow these steps to the latter and with some time, you WILL be back on track.

One thing to note, if you do not follow these steps (especially the first two) then this isn't going to work and you are cheating yourself. It's your choice.


1. Cut ALL contact

20 years ago you could just throw away their phone number, but in 2017 cutting contact is actually more complicated than it sounds. Here are some suggestions but I may well be missing things (you will get the idea)

- Block number on all phones then delete number
- Block and delete email address
- Unfriend from Facebook, the block her profile
- Unfriend all her friends, then block them too
- Remove any adds on SnapChat and Instagram then BLOCK
- Block her work number from your phone
- Tell your friends and family to never mention her ever again, she is dead.


2. Get rid of everything

Get rid of all items that are associated with her. Simply grab a bin bag and walk around your house/flat and any item that has any sort of feeling attached to it, throw it in the bag. Any clothes she may have left, any presents she bought you over the years, certainly any photos (both physical and digital). There should be no single trace that this person ever excited. This bag is then tipped or burnt.

3. Write a list

Grab a pen and paper, then find a quiet area. You are going to put together a list of 10 things that you fucking HATE about your ex. What do you mean you can't think of anything? Well put it this way, if she was Miss Perfect and your Soul Mate then logic would dictate that you would still be together? Right? Yeah, she's a fucking bellend and you know it. Start with the things that used to annoy you, oh hold on, she wouldn't let you go on that camping trip with your mates last month, that was annoying. Before you know it you will have pages upon pages in front of you.

You're gonna be pretty angry once you have done this, that is good. It mean's you are starting to realise that maybe the break up was a good thing. This list is now your bible. I want you to keep this on you at all times, whenever she crosses your mind. Pull that list out and read it. Learn to hate.

4. Activities

Since you've been a pussy-whipped, cuck bitch for the past x years. You probably fucked off all your friends and have basically nothing interesting going on in your life. Relationships take allot of investment. Well now you have all the time in the world. So do something! You don't have some women judging your every move so do what you want. Be pro-active, invest in something you are interesting in. Want to try boxing? join the nearest club. How about learning a language. It's up to you, don't spend all your time in a dark room cry wanking.

5. Positive Self improvement

Now it's time to make you better. Being on here is a good start! One thing I would say straight away, is if you don't already, go to a gym. Join your local and work out 4 /5 times a week. Sort your diet out too whilst your at it. Get in shape. You will feel and look better from this.

Your confidence is gonna be in shreds, but take this time to pull yourself back up. Any self-help or motivational books will be of great benefit to you. Think big.

6. Work on other (non-romantic) relationships

Friends and family may not have seen you in a while. These people do get neglected when you end up in a relationship, so it's time to make up for that. Go out with your mates more, make an effort to reach out to them. Same with family. If you have no mates (lol) then see rule 3. Put yourself out their, the associates and friends will follow.

7. GET LAID!

At some point you HAVE to do this. Get the motor oiled. Now, I'm not going to judge you if fresh from a break up you end up banging some fatty, it's better than nothing. What's important here is to realise that there is other women out there, vagina is very common.

8. Put yourself out there

Time to get women back in your life. These days, this is actually very easy. Online dating is a rich source of desperate chicks who are probably just as heartbroken and damaged as you. Go out there, date. Be pro-active in building attraction with the opposite sex. Why not 'Find A Wingman' on this very forum?


IN CASE OF EMERGENCY!

So you got pissed and called her number up from memory? She turned up at your doorstep and begged for you back? Ok, back up fella.

This is not easy, in fact this may be the hardest thing you have ever done in your life. Rome wasn't built in a day. So you are going to have set-backs and this is going to take a indeterminate amount of time. Truth is it may well take years to 'get over' someone, what do you want me to say? But you have to stick with it.

If you get a set back, then I suggest you go back to Step 2 then work back up from there. Wash, rinse, repeat.

Also, stop being a fag and man up.

Good luck.
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Thanks. Good read
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