Hi,
I am 24 yo, from Italy.
I have never had any kind of romantic or casual relationship and my frustration is reaching high peaks.
The problem is that I am feeling all this neediness and frustration, combined with an increasing misogynia, and I always project these bad thougths to other people.
I have a high consideration of myself; computer scientist, work as a programmer, make computer music.
I think I am not anymore shy, but I am becoming cynical, frustrated, needy. I go to a counselor every week, but it doesn't help.
What are your suggestions?

regards,
loveshy85

I would recommend meeting up with some like minded guys and go and approach women, it would be even better if you could find some more experienced men or pick up artists to show you how its done and give you advice.

If this is a step to far then just start up conversations with people (men or women) to build up your confidence.

Remember even if things don't go as well as you had hoped it's ok, use it as a learning experience, you haven't failed you just haven't got to where you want yet.

Oh have you read any or watched any pickup Dvds?
That might be a good place to start first just to get you in the right frame of mind

Loveshy85-

To Quote you

'I think I am not anymore shy, but I am becoming cynical, frustrated, needy. I go to a counselor every week, but it doesn't help What are your suggestions'

From my own personal experiences, I try to get to the root of my problems... Maybe ask yourself the questions why am I needy? and cynical?!? Frustrated.

Is this due to the lack of women in my life?! or some other area that needs fixing!

the good thing is you are in control of all of these emotions! your never powerless!

Try joining a meditation class or yoga these help bring back body and mind...

Namaste sinstyle

It sounds to me that you are suffering from extreme sexual frustration, and that no amount of counselling is going to help. You need to get laid, and fast.

If I were you, I would swallow my pride and find a pro. You should choose one in her mid to late thirties who is kind and compassionate. Be open with her and ask her to teach you about sex. You will reap great rewards, not only in self-confidence when you meet other women, but it will help you to shake off your neediness, which is unattractive.
The woman will enjoy teaching you (we all like to show off), and if you treat her like a person and not a sex-object, you will probably make a good friend who will teach you a lot more about women than you will ever learn on forums like this one.

I wish someone had given me this advice when I was younger.

I suggest: you organise your improvements. Write where you are, where you want to be, and how you will get there. Use the knowledge on this site and other resources to start improving - if you are organised, you can and will do it.

Being needy is just a hurdle you will get across if you improve - don't let it stop you.

Dear Loveshy85,

I have been where you say you are now and I'm recovering from that. I understand how you feel.

I don't think women are the problem or a solution to your problem. If you feel like you hate women it probably has some roots in the way you grew up.

Women can definitely be a wonderful addition to your life but will not solve your issues, no matter how many you sleep with.

The reason why I'm saying this is nobody can love you any more than you love yourself. If you want better relations with women and others you need to start treating yourself better.


Otherwise even if they do give you love you may not be able to fully receive it since you don't feel it for yourself.

From what you've written you only appreciates about yourself the things that you do.

How about learning to see worth in yourself just because you exist, not for any other reason?

If you are getting the point, you can send me a message I will see if I can help you.