How do you motivate/inspire yourself in life? - Page 2 - PUA Forums - The UK's Leading Pick-up Artist Forum

talias · 19-07-2014, 03:04 AM

Ultimately I want to realize my dreams. This is deeply motivating for me. It's pretty simple. It kind of puzzles me that people could be directionless. Doesn't everyone have dreams? Maybe some people lose sight and/or hope in their dreams?

PostScript · 22-07-2014, 02:42 PM

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You can't do that.

Agreed, I've been thinking since I originally posted that motivation/inspiration is clearly intrinsic not extrinsic.

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You just have to follow minor interests and see if there is some big passion there for you.

Maybe next month I'll have all new passions, maybe I won't have any.

Then I'll just keep pursuing whatever minor interest occur to me (something in a random article I'm reading or from a conversation I am having or just random shit you think about) till something excites me again.

I think this hits the nail on the head, find things you enjoy, experiment, see what sticks. I've gotten into a bit of a rut since being in an LTR and it's more the rut than the LTR which has been bothering me. Working a lot, time with the GF, and not much else. I need to rebalance what I spend my time doing.

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I set dates when I want to do stuff by, but if I lose interest then I stop.

Yah, like dropping a shitty book or movie half way through rather than forcing yourself to complete it.

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Are you good at what you do now and do you enjoy it? If yes to both, then maybe look at ways to do what you do now but in a more satisfying way. If not, then what are you good at that you enjoy? Do that.

I am good at it, but no I don't enjoy it. I suppose I'm ambivalent towards it now. I'm not really interested in my field I just fell into it while young through circumstance. I made a success of it and it affords me a degree of personal freedom but at the same time there are considerable stresses involved. I often toy with the idea of selling up and travelling to find some new focus but it just seems risky to me. Then again the greater risk might be stagnation.

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For example, I love my conversation classes and, for philosophical reasons, I'm about to advertise free (donations accepted) classes 3 nights a week. People who need to learn English but don't have any money can attend as can people who can afford classes, then they give me nothing or something truly voluntarily based on what they can afford and what they think it was worth.

The "philosophical reasons" caught my eye, I could take a guess that you are actively trying to cultivate some kind of non attachment or similar, care to elaborate?

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I fully expect to make more from this than I do from the classes where I charge and switch to only operating this way soon after. However, that is just my raving optimism speaking as I haven't done it yet.

Well I've read that this kind of voluntary pricing strategy can me more lucrative than fighting price wars at market levels, give it a try, be fascinating if it proves true. Even if it doesn't "pay" as such at least you'll have helped some people who couldn't otherwise afford it.

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I know you didn't want any youtube videos but fuck you, here's one!

lol actually it was good, I'm a sucker for a bit of Alan Watts :d

markuk · 23-07-2014, 11:00 PM

This thread is making me think about my current situation. Like the Alan Watts video

PostScript · 29-07-2014, 11:37 AM

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I think that all people should be able to create value where they can and where it pleases them to do so, or not if that pleases them not to do so, and that all people should be able to take what they need from everything that there is at any moment.

In a word - anarchy.

How do you reconcile that with moral concerns, say for example it pleases someone to steal?

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The thing I'm working on now is not to 'be authentic' but to 'be the change'. Just starting out... and I have a long way to go. 'Be authentic' is freeing and allows you to be happy as you and in time it moves you into a better place with better relationships. 'Be the change' is challenging, it is like 'be authentic' + 'be true to your ideals' (or sommets like that).

Yeah I like this, I think Gandhi said "be the change you want to see in the world" or something similar. Then again he only made one good movie and you never heard from him again

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You can be authentic and think that something is bad but also that you can't be fucked to do something about it because it isn't what you do or who you are or whatever.
Maybe it is just kind of not allowing silos of thought to exist. Not allowing areas of belief to be compartmentalised. So you are forced to reconcile how much you want various different things.
I guess I feel a bit like a religious scientist, who has deeply entrenched compartmentalisation of their religious beliefs from their scientific beliefs.

I always liked the idea of living by a code or guiding philosophy, actually weaving it in to your life, a modern day Bushido of some sort. I'm not surprised religious people live longer as it must give a sense of clarity that the rest of us lack.

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So starting to look at ways to be the change and this, the free lessons thing, is one of the first.

Actually I might do this myself too, could be interesting. Will post here how it goes.

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(I just typed that stream-of-consciousness style, it's the first time I've tried to put those feelings into words.)

That's cool, cheers.