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Default Age insecurity? - 31-05-2018, 08:51 PM

Hi I just can't believe I've wasted my life away

I am 28 and 1/2 years old.

I waited until I was 25 to get a girlfriend and then I didn't so I fucked a prostitute and since then I've had a prostitute for 1/2 an hour about every 4 months since that's what I can afford.

This has taught me a lesson though, like Eminem says in "Lose Yourself"

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Look, if you had one shot, or one opportunity
To seize everything you ever wanted, in one moment
Would you capture it, or just let it slip?
I know now, 12 years later that I WOULD capture it without hesitation.

But it has taken 12 years of missed opportunities for me to realise that.

I feel 18 but I get angry when I'm reminded of how old I am, even though I don't feel it at all.

I wish I spoke to Sinead Dibble in 2008

https://www.facebook.com/sinead.dibble.9

I want to have sex with 30 different women by the age of 30, this is the only way I can feel better.

Then I can have a son and teach him pickup from an early age so he doesn't have to go what I went through, that is the only way to redeem myself.

Because then every time he has sex it will be like I'm having sex
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Default 01-06-2018, 12:24 PM

Hey dude

Sorry you feel that way. 28 isn’t a bad age to get it together with girls and life generally, I know many people who’ve made career transitions or married and started families in their mid to late 30s and made themselves happy.

Start with finding your self worth. It sounds like mumbo jumbo but if you don’t see yourself as an attractive person that people want to spend time with , then you’ll feel like a fraud and project that out.
Become the person you want to be. Read. Experience. Learn. Work out.
Then get social - go out to places where you meet people with mutual interests and talk to all of them. Me I like comedy, Irish folk music, travelling, dancing, reading cheesy spy novels, smoking weed at the tam tams, weights. I’m not very good at many of them but I do them and enjoy them and it gives me a sense of self and opportunities to meet people so when I chat to girls it’s through a shared experience rather than creepily sidling up and blurting put a canned line.

Don’t teach your son pick up. Help him be confident in his self and comfortable socially - it will benefit his whole life rather than having emotionally damaged relationships


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Default 01-06-2018, 06:35 PM

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Hey dude

Sorry you feel that way. 28 isnít a bad age to get it together with girls and life generally, I know many people whoíve made career transitions or married and started families in their mid to late 30s and made themselves happy.

Start with finding your self worth. It sounds like mumbo jumbo but if you donít see yourself as an attractive person that people want to spend time with , then youíll feel like a fraud and project that out.
Become the person you want to be. Read. Experience. Learn. Work out.
Then get social - go out to places where you meet people with mutual interests and talk to all of them. Me I like comedy, Irish folk music, travelling, dancing, reading cheesy spy novels, smoking weed at the tam tams, weights. Iím not very good at many of them but I do them and enjoy them and it gives me a sense of self and opportunities to meet people so when I chat to girls itís through a shared experience rather than creepily sidling up and blurting put a canned line.

Donít teach your son pick up. Help him be confident in his self and comfortable socially - it will benefit his whole life rather than having emotionally damaged relationships
That's interesting, thanks.

I've never got to have sex with an 18 year old girl before which bothers me. My time is running out after which I'll be judged a pedo. I need to pickup young chicks urgently.

It's crazy as it was only a few years ago I was in that age group but now suddenly I'm not!?

You seem to have a dim view of pickup

By pickup I mean going up to a woman, paying her a direct compliment and then trying to get into sex stuff with her.

I thought that's what women liked? A man to approach and be the boss etc.

I really want to have abundance, I've been sex starved my whole life and just want to go crazy.

I want my son to have abundance as well, being sex starved is torture.

I just feel like if I could pick up chicks now then I should have picked up chicks 10 years ago.

I just assumed chicks weren't for me.

But then I say the day game videos on Youtube and got inspired, the rest is history.

Everyone I've spoken to over the years in life has tried to push me towards bars/nightclubs but I've strongly resisted as I find the whole thing distasteful and unethical.

Day game is the way to go for me.
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Default 01-06-2018, 09:12 PM

Sex with 18 year olds is overrated - they’re usually inexperienced and sometimes self conscious... that said if it’s on your bucket list then shoot for the moon but don’t forget to enjoy other women and things in life

You are placing limitations on yourself that will effect your thoughts and behaviour such as unnecessary time limits and deadlines. It isn’t such a bad thing when you can control the outcome such as booking a language class or trying improv, but with things out of your control such as sleeping with an 18 yr old, I’d be hesitant to put a limit on it.

Your time isn’t running out either, I’m 32 and recently slept with a 19year old. Honestly you should sleep with a girl for the experience And enjoyment of being with them, not to tick your box mainly because you’ll enjoy it more

I’m not down on pick up, I’m wary of what they are selling. With most pick up videos, the aim is to impress other guys or sell a product. That said there are some materials out there which are more aligned to my values.

I actually have no problem in complimenting strangers, both men and women, however I do this with the sole aim of giving them a compliment on their hat, style, smile, whatever.
PUA is often contrived and you are complimenting them with an ulterior motive to get in their pants rather than genuinely complimenting them - it’s disingenuous.

I tend to head to social places like bars to enjoy the music or dance. Often I’ll enjoy good conversation with people and often there will be somebody with whom there is mutual attraction. The trick is to spot the attraction and act on it.

Try swing dancing. Take a beginners class a few times. You’ll be forced to pair up and dance with girls plus make awkward conversation. Unless you break somebody’s toe, it’ll help you over the initial hump


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Default 01-06-2018, 10:08 PM

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Sex with 18 year olds is overrated - they’re usually inexperienced and sometimes self conscious... that said if it’s on your bucket list then shoot for the moon but don’t forget to enjoy other women and things in life
Well, I'll be the judge of that

I want to be 18 again. I can't believe I spent those years too afraid to approach women.

Back then I even got anxious talking to guys

I want to be in the same age group as the girls I'm attracted to and I feel like I am but my brain still hasn't got the memo that it was TEN years ago!

When you are 18, all women are fair game.

When you get to 30 people want to judge you as a paedophile for having a big age gap.

I just wish I had a few girlfriends when I was 16-25.

I was on car forums and a lot of average guys had all sorts of fun.

There was this thread where they'd post pics of their girlfriends and they were quite gorgeous but I just couldn't get any access when I was in that age group.

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You are placing limitations on yourself that will effect your thoughts and behaviour such as unnecessary time limits and deadlines. It isn’t such a bad thing when you can control the outcome such as booking a language class or trying improv, but with things out of your control such as sleeping with an 18 yr old, I’d be hesitant to put a limit on it.


Your time isn’t running out either, I’m 32 and recently slept with a 19year old. Honestly you should sleep with a girl for the experience And enjoyment of being with them, not to tick your box mainly because you’ll enjoy it more
Yeah I dunno.

I just feel like I'm the wrong age, I've got no memories if I look back to 2006-2013.

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I’m not down on pick up, I’m wary of what they are selling. With most pick up videos, the aim is to impress other guys or sell a product. That said there are some materials out there which are more aligned to my values.

I actually have no problem in complimenting strangers, both men and women, however I do this with the sole aim of giving them a compliment on their hat, style, smile, whatever.
PUA is often contrived and you are complimenting them with an ulterior motive to get in their pants rather than genuinely complimenting them - it’s disingenuous.
This part is especially confusing. How do you go about "chatting up" a woman then?

I know it's not a case of going up to them and being up front like "I want to have sex with you".

So what is an honest way to get into a woman's pants?

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I tend to head to social places like bars to enjoy the music or dance. Often I’ll enjoy good conversation with people and often there will be somebody with whom there is mutual attraction. The trick is to spot the attraction and act on it.

Try swing dancing. Take a beginners class a few times. You’ll be forced to pair up and dance with girls plus make awkward conversation. Unless you break somebody’s toe, it’ll help you over the initial hump
My god!

I don't want to be trapped in my own head anymore like I was 10-12 years ago. I want to be free and express myself.

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Default 09-06-2018, 08:35 PM

pick up is key to life, teach your son the ways of the jedi.
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Default 19-06-2018, 03:12 PM

I'm 33.

Me now VS Me aged 23, there is no competition, now is where it is at. Not only have I got 'better' with age in all aspects, but it is only ever a positive with young girls.

Here is a little inside info, young girls LOVE older men. I have them call me daddy in the bedroom, true story.
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Default 19-06-2018, 09:42 PM

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I'm 33....

I have them call me grand-daddy in the bedroom, true story.
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Default 19-06-2018, 10:43 PM

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I'm 33.

Me now VS Me aged 23, there is no competition, now is where it is at. Not only have I got 'better' with age in all aspects, but it is only ever a positive with young girls.

Here is a little inside info, young girls LOVE older men. I have them call me daddy in the bedroom, true story.
I'm 33 too and yes younger ladies like older men because lads their age are immature pricks (just like we were).

My plan is to be somewhat wealthy (or super-rich!) by the time I'm 40. And with that, have a stream of sexy little sugar-babies to spoil and fuck around with.

I know that's my life's purpose.


If it doesn't evolve me it doesn't involve me

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Default 20-06-2018, 08:08 PM

Well, it's easy said and done but in 2008 I was in the age range that is most attractive (16-25) but now I'm not anymore.

The whole time I was in that age range (which feels like just a few years ago) I never approached any chicks at all.

A lot of guys commenting have had their "young and crazy" days, so they don't have the feeling of missing out that I do

Whatever I have from this point forwards I could have had better for longer if I'd started younger.
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