I've been seeing this 25 year old blonde for a couple of months.

Turned out she's shit at sex. She swallows and all, but when she went to go on top she has literally no clue what to do.

Do I teach her? Or move the fuck on to a girl who does know sex.

Danny

From the title I assumed you were getting into scatology.

First, off... who the fuck doesn't swallow? In my life only one girl, I remember the fact but have forgotten who it was... excepting prostitutes and one night stands, which is acceptable.

What's the "and all"? Other vanilla stuff that frankly is de rigueur?

Honestly, whether a girl is good at sex or not isn't of concern to me. They hardly ever do anything anyway. I just put them on top to look at them and take a breather. What she is up for doing is way more important. If I'm with a girl who will pretty much let me do all the stuff I want to do (which is a lot of stuff), then that's rare enough to make her quite the find.

Remember that you are usually unusually stronger than her. So teaching her how to move is simply a matter of grabbing a hold of her hips and controlling the motion. (Feels like I'm explaining this to an alien.) Sure, you can't do this all the time... but if you yourself are any good at fucking, she'll generally straightaway respond to the fact that this new way of moving you just showed her feels way better than the random dumb shit she has been doing and she'll try to adopt it.

Having said that, a bad blow job is frustrating. That's the only sex thing where the girl herself actually has to have some skill or be prepared to learn and then I'll just tell her how I want it done.


Peace,

kowalski

Again - can you teach a chic sex without either
1. getting shit for it because - your challenge causes her to doubt her abilty
2. Increase her insecurity which in turn will require her to validate everything she does with you - increasing annoyance
3. generally be a pain in the hole and undoubtably fuck you off

I think you should concentrate on your second point - get a new female.

Dog

Yes, you can teach a chick sex without any of those things. I literally described one clean and clear way of doing exactly that in the words you read just before posting your dumb nonsense.


Peace,

kowalski

I was expecting a lecture on the fine art of coprophilia (scat sex) but instead I'm met with the mental imagery of 'Walski teaching a chick to cowgirl.

I can't tell which is worse.

Then this kid shows up thinking he's my back-up joker. Making the same joke about scat I already made, followed by the same joke about how weird it is to be explaining this.

We can all tell which is worse.


Peace,

kowalski

Dan, is she worth investing the time into?

Personally I'm not to fussed about swallowing (although sometimes i find it tastes funny) but any girl who just wants to starfish can jog on unless there's some seriously awesome other reason to keep her around...

When's your instructional video coming out K?

I really tried hard to build reasons why I should invest time into it, but it didn't work.

As much as she's a cute, short, sexy blonde (my type) I'm afraid the selfish side of me came through and reminded me I've had more passionate and fiery sexual experiences before.

I'd rather have no sex than sex that doesn't fulfil me.

I need nice, classy ladies who are also the filthiest little slut whore devil bitches when they enter my bedroom.


Question - Was i wrong to not be honest about the reason why I finished it? (I told her it was my own commitment issues rather than being honest and saying it was heavily based on her sexual experience)

In fact I have finished with a handful of girls this way, by not telling the real reason why I finished with them.

It does make me feel like I'm burying my head in the sand or some kind of cowardice. But my thinking has always been that what I would tell them would hurt them, so it's better to avoid it for the sake of their feelings.

However the other side of me says that by making them aware of the problem means they can then take any necessary steps or actions to avoid the same thing happening to them in the future.

I did actually try this a few weeks ago. There's this girl I used to date a few years ago who has allowed herself to go almost obese. This has been really tough to see because she had so much potential - as a slim girl she was totally gorgeous - but she has shamelessly not given one fuck and ate everything in sight. Works in a Chinese too, which explains a lot.... Anyways, I text her a few weeks ago when I was drunk and told her my thoughts. I told her she could be so hot but threw it away, and that I would have made her my girlfriend if she hadn't. As expected, she didn't take it in a good way and said she hated me (I don't care, she's fat), but she hasn't deleted me or anything.

I had to really think about this to remember.

When stopping seeing someone I rarely explain myself and am rarely asked to explain myself. Normally we've reached some impasse that one or both of us can't be arsed to work through / around, so everyone knows what is happening and why and I just text "stop" or "I'm / we're done here" and that's that.

The last girl who asked "why?", I replied "because you're the type of person who'd ask why" and sure enough she pestered me for over a year coming to my home and writing me letters.

One girl recently said "see you around" and I replied "no. You don't hang out where I hang out. If I see you around, it's because you are looking for me. Don't do that."


Peace,

kowalski