Hey guys! I'm only somewhat familiar with the ways of the PUA, and I've got a situation I need some help with.


So, I fucked my ex about two weeks ago. I don't want to get back with her or anything like that, but I would like to fuck her from time to time, for various reasons. The problem is, I haven't heard from her since that night, which signals to me that's she's gone into her "I'm afraid of getting close to him again so I'll run away" mode - this is very, very typical of her. She's always one to be in denial, run from her feelings/emotional involvement.
I've not text her either, as I didn't want to seem too interested, or make her think I was reading into what happened too much.


So, I need to know what to say to reel her back in; to reassure her and make her forget her fears and give in to her physical desires (which I'm reasonably sure do exist and are quite strong). I've got her jacket in my place and she's supposed to call over to collect it, but obviously she's avoiding it. What would your guys' tactics be here? What's the best approach to let her know that you can 'take her or leave her', and at the same time make her give in, ignore her fear, and come and get what I believe she actually wants?


Thanks in advance!!

All the words and phrases you've used here indicate what you should be doing.

"I don't want to get back with her"

"Reel her in"

"Tactics"

"Take her or leave her"

"Make her give in"


Seems she's the one who would come out of it hurt, whilst you're unaffected.

So do the right thing & leave the girl to move on rather than using her for your own selfish desires.

dan is so moralistic recently.

Tactics are always a bad idea. Do what you want to do. If you want to text her to come get her jacket and some dick, then text her that. Or if you can truly take her or leave her, then just get on with your life... she'll show up eventually.


Peace,

kowalski

Troll or sociopath!

Plenty of fish in the sea. Don't think trying to bang your ex is worthwhile if she's going to come out hurt at the end of it.

Well, unless you both die at the same moment, all relationships end in one or both parties feeling sad.


Peace,

kowalski

Having sex with your ex makes you a beta male by default. Don't do it. It's pathetic at best.

Lol. Idiot.


Peace,

kowalski

The fact you had no refute, proves I'm right

Going back to your ex is a stupid thing to do, OP, not only will it stop you moving on with your life, it's a lack of character will seep into other aspects of your life.

Have some integrity and forget about her.

I was wrong earlier too, in your particular situation, it is at best, manipulative and nasty. Which is worse than beta. You are saying you want to string along your ex for sex without a care in the world about her trying to move on, what her feelings are towards you etc.

I'm not being Mr.Morals here, if that's what you want to do then do it but you are - by any definition - a low life.

Go find other women or at least learn to be alone for a bit. Both of those options will help you grow, and make you happier.

Saying all that, I suspect you either have feelings for her still or don't know how - or at least scared - to find new girls. Luckily you've come to the right place, introduce yourself, and we'll get you in fighting form.

What's to refute? The facts are plainly stated and readily available. If all that's needed to know someone is wrong is a quick scan of the wiki page... that's just ignorance on your part.

The earth is flat.
Lol. Idiot.
The fact you had no refute (sic), proves I'm right.

... No. No it doesn't.

Alpha doesn't mean whatever you want it to.

The term is thrown around by puas like yourself in an attempt to show that your subjective position is objective but it's simply a marker of your personal prejudice.

Here's a primer on what alpha means... there's nothing about - after you've had an exclusive sexual relationship with another that then continuing with a non exclusive sexual relationship with that same other is non alpha behaviour.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alpha_(ethology)
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beta_male_(slang)

Probably, the non alpha move is to be in an exclusive relationship in the first place. To permit a girl to restrict your mating options is probably the beta move.


Peace,

kowalski