has anyone here ever dealt with a bad case of heartbreak? what did you do to get over it and how long did it take for you to be completely back to your old self?

Cant say I have. Heart break is generally strong grief and/or longing for someone. In my opinion, assuming this is chick that broke from a relationship, this kind of break can hit a man hard. BUT if he has a strong image of himself and his worth he will quickly come to his senses and realise its part of life.

I know if I went through it I would
a) cut all contact / reminder of this person from my life
b) hit the gym hard
c) get a rebound asap (preferably her mate)
d) get back on the game

Let us know how it goes

yh it did hit a man hard lol. its taken almost 3 months of self destruction but im actually already doing your ab & d, c is the most important hence why i joined this forum, im working all over the country so unfortunately a rebound is hard to come by :/ off to see a lass next week though as i mentioned in another thread, so fingers crossed!
i left town so no chance of fucking her mate, not that she had any worth fucking anyway.

thanks for the input, you're surprisingly accurate for someone whos never experienced it

this couldn't be more true. i'd say its my ego is the one thing thats holding me back and doing the most damage. i do catch myself thinking that i'll get back in touch with her in a few months and try and rekindle the flame, in my head i know its stupid but when i'm weak (hungover, tired after work...) i let myself slip down that slope.


i'm gonna write that list right now and keep it in my pocket, thanks jaz

Never thought I'd be talking about this on here again but yeah, I've felt immense heartbreak.

In short, this girl finished with me and I was all heartbroken and shit. Then it turned out she was actually pregnant, yet still wanted nothing to do with me. I went out of my mind and was in pain/anger/rage for a long fucking time.

Then I moved away after about a year to Belfast, 50 miles away. I moved for my sanity and a fresh start. Although I was still fucked up for a long time after the move, slowly but surely the pain and anger passed - not totally, but as the years went by I no longer burned with rage every day at feeling I got fucked over, & what I lost out on. I moved 5 years ago.

As for cutting all contact, that was impossible as we have a kid together. Which contributed to it taking such a long time for me to get to a place where I accepted things as they are & moved on.

I wouldn't even want to be with her now after everything, but she is a great mum & I have always slept easy knowing my boy is ok.

Having said that, life wouldn't be as good as it is now if none of that had happened. I turned the pain on it's head & changed my life around for the better. It's slightly bittersweet that all the cool changes I made to my life came from a place of such pain, but it is what it is. I could either stay where I was & end up dead or in jail, or move the fuck away... I chose wisely.

Ps. Another cool thing that came from it was that I found this forum full of sexy fuckers too.

dude, you make my situation look like a walk in the park. your ex mrs sounds like a grade A bitch for being so cold, but i don't know you or her so can't really judge... respect for staying in the picture, i know a few lasses who's fellas just walked out of the picture completely after having a kid.

there is a saying that goes something along the lines of "strength comes from pain", i know it to be true and im sure you do even more so dan.

also, on another note, i found a good way to deal with the pain right after the breakup, it was to just get fucked up often... they say its a bad idea but i disagree. its the only crutch a man has in such a dark time imo.
obviously there's a limit to this sort of behaviour, i did it for 2 weeks and it peetered out over another 2 weeks...

funny story. the day after me and my ex broke up, i went to my brothers house and drank all day while helping him pack up (he was moving house). when it got dark, he pulled out some magic mushrooms, and me being in the state i was in decided to have 2 doses, bare in mind i hadn't had any psychedelics for over a year...

long story short, i went for a shower, started tripping in the shower, stayed in there for 3 hours, smashed the bathroom to bits while screaming obscenities about dying and making the most primal noises i've ever heard come out of my being, and enjoying every minute of it...
i should add that my brother is a sadistic torturous motherfucker and you should never give psychedelics to someone who has recently been through any kind of trauma. it fucks you up

noooo this was a bad move when i did it... i went into a 3 hour hell hole

oh yeah, i know psychedelic does help with depression and shit...

yeah i took too much... hero dose.

big big mistake...

just smoke some DMT

You lads have no idea how much I wanna do this

i'd say the benefit that alcohol had was that it dulled the neverending heartache, and actually made it possible to have a genuine happy laugh when in the right company, ofcourse there's no scientifically approved treatment based on alcohol because it is toxic, unlike psychedelics.

the shrooms were bad for me in the state i was in, probably even without the alcohol they would have just amplified the way i was feeling. its all about context, set and setting, if i was in a controlled environment 2 weeks later and tripped with intention, then yes it would have been beneficial. but no i just stupidly ate a shit ton of mushies to escape, and the opposite happened.

no more shrooms until they start sporadically appearing in the hills next autumn now, we had the last few back in december

you're not the only one dude. its actually quite easy and legal to make from raw materials. been considering it for a while, but im not sure i'd trust my chemistry skills when it comes to the most powerful psychedelic out there