Shah's New Journal

[Shahanshah]

Starting a new one as this is going to be a slightly different one, and possibly because I couldn't be bothered searching for the thread. I'll write up a proper introduction and starting post for this later tonight or tomorrow. I'm still figuring out what exactly its going to be about.

Its mainly fueled by the realisation that now I've finished university and I'm 23 years old, I sort of am who I am now. At university you think "yeah I'm a student fuck it, the future is always there for when I have to be a grown up", now its like "Shit I'm just a guy now, a straight (?), white, not-too-poor male, so I have no excuses".

Maybe that's what this thread is about; being a grown up with responsibility. The first posts will be more about discovering what its about, and feel free to chip in your opinions. I could do with some advice on implementing new habits and mindsets or whatever. Nothing self-helpy but normal conscious growth and development.

[Shahanshah]

10 Morning Habits Successful People Swear By - Forbes


https://www.google.co.uk/webhp?sourc...ssful%20people

Found some interesting links. I'm still brain storming and thinking about what direction I want to go in. I feel like there's a lot I want to do, be doing and also change/ improve upon so its hard figuring it all out haha.

[Shahanshah]

Okay been doing a lot of pondering, wondering, wandering and meandering. I'm going to throw some stuff out relating to dating:

At its core I'm going to be doing more 'approaching', meeting and hanging out with more people. I'm such a lazy fucker I've realised. I've started to realise most of my issues revolve around being a lazy, unfocused cunt. I'm going to a doctor to see about this as I wonder if I have some form of ADHD. Im not the one to do those sort of claims but its something worth looking into.

The next one is 'behaviour' and that is the whole Woo vs Intent, being genuine and authentic, going for it and closing type stuff. Still need to figure out proper concrete goals and ways of doing that.

Anyway I'm still thinking about this and this post is more like random thoughts thrown out there. My main thing is to pull I generally need to have a night out (regardless of sobriety) where its relatively busy, I'm just in that right mood and with the right friends. Which is way too reliant on a lot of factors. Also Tinder has dried up around these here parts of lowly Cornwall.

Still thinking about realistic actions, goals and ways of going about it.

I also waste so much time and procrastinate so I need to sort that out too. I feel like theres so much I wanna change/improve that I don't know where to start. Not in some depressive way but in a being better way.

[Stein]

Originally Posted by Shahanshah

The next one is 'behaviour' and that is the whole Woo vs Intent, being genuine and authentic, going for it and closing type stuff. Still need to figure out proper concrete goals and ways of doing that.

Not entirely sure what you mean by this. I'm not sure I get the whole woo vs intent thing anyway, but it's been years since I've watched anything by Tim so I dunno. To me worrying about concepts like woo and intent does do too much apart from vet your own personality, judging it on factors like 'am I woo enough' or 'am I showing enough intent'. This might tie in to why you feel there are so many factors that need to be right for you to pull.

In my opinion the main thing to worry about first is the genuine authentic stuff, along with just getting out there and doing more. The other stuff should come into alignment automatically.

[Sugarspin]

Have you read models?
It breaks it down into
1 Work on you - all life areas
2 Improve your communication
3 Courage, taking chances

Also if you are still not working:
1 go easy on yourself, it's a stressful experience and warps how you view a lot of stuff
2 you're a young fella, plenty of time!

As for the trying new stuff hanging out with loads of people, yeah why not - choose stuff you haven't been exposed to and people you wouldn't normally meet. Shake it up see what sticks.

Finally this may help with the being out of work thing:
Being There: Handling Unemployment |CMR| Finding a job when you?re unemployed while maintaining self respect and overcoming depression

[PostScript]

Originally Posted by Shahanshah

10 Morning Habits Successful People Swear By - Forbes

Number 4 on this list (doing things in order of importance) is one I highly recommend. I fight myself on it all the time, particularly with work, but when I make myself do the big shit first I always feel a lot calmer and more focused.

[Shahanshah]

Hey guys I've still been contemplating this stuff, for the first time in my life I really do feel dumbfounded and I will reply to you guys when I'm not hungover haha.

I will set a deadline for this Friday to have a set 'thing' to start on here. It'll be small though.

[Shahanshah]

I don't know why I never journal on here. I used to have a focus on all this. I think it's getting into the habit of it. I will be posting on here very often from now on, to begin with it'll probably be pointless shit like this post. Hopefully it will lead somewhere. On a positive note, a lot of the reason for not posting on here is because I'm usually busy or at least focused on bigger things in my life such as my career.

[Shahanshah]

Originally Posted by Redemption

The best way to keep a journal going is keeping it as short as possible. You wont be doing it regularly if its a hassle

I disagree. I think regularity and consistency is the key. Often once you get typing you are fine especially as journal's are stream-of-consciousness usually. Making it shorter and more brief just means you're may not be using it to its fullest potential. Writing as much as you can is part of what makes them effective and therapeutic.

[Shahanshah]

It depends on what you are using your journal for. I use them to type out my thoughts so I can see what I've been thinking which enables you to get a better understanding of what you're thinking. You also have to think more about what you did and what actually happened giving you greater insight and more mindfulness to your true actions and results.