Originally Posted by DuncanButlin

Keep silent as you approach her, looking steadfastly at her eyes. Your approach is your first utterance -- your act of dominance -- so you must wait for her to reply. This means she must speak first -- you would otherwise be speaking out of turn. Speaking out of turn destroys the conversation on the spot. She may well not reply at all, or she will continue, but it will only be idle chatter -- she has lost interest in you. In other words speak twice and you’ve lost her.